Theres this guy I really liked and we dont talk anymore because i said something that really made him mad. i was questioning about his guy friends to test if he really likes me or not(yes i know its stupid and i learned a lesson from it def.). when that happened, i sent him a lot of emails and i apologized and explained how i felt about him but he was still mad at me and never spoke to me ever again..he even blocked me afterwards.i sent him emails everyday that week..he's a popular dancer and has a lot of fans. but its been months and i cant find anyone like him. do you think i should send him an email on myspace and see hows he doing or what should i do? hes everything i wanted in a guy and i cant find anyone like him. i just atleast wanted to be friends with him again. should i send him a message saying "hey how u been doing? I thought Id hit u up cuz i saw u on" something like that? I dont wanna seem desperate. but its been 5 months.
2007-12-20 10:56:16 · 11 answers · asked by NeNe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I waited for a while for a week since that happened and then sent him another sorry email but he never responded back.
2007-12-20 11:07:11 · update #1
Took me a year to get over something. But I never had her looking to sort it out, she just stuck her head in the sand.
I'm sorry to say, you may have blown your only chance and will only be able to employ the knowledge gained on someone new.
2007-12-20 11:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going to give you my honest opinion, and you may not like the answer, but I think you are just going to have to let it go with this guy. I do think the excessive emails you said you sent prob were too much, and he may be totally cool and nice and all that, but it doesnt sound like he feels the same way, even for being friends right now, if its been 5 months and he hasn't contacted you, then he's decided that maybe you aren't the right girl for him.
im sure you're totally cool and nice, and i really think you should just not spend any more extra emotion or time investing in this guy who just isn't going to give you the kind of relationship you want and maybe focus on working on maybe things w/yourself, and knowing you are nice and cool and don't have to email a guy every day (just know that guys don't like tons of emails, they dont really even like reading them that much and really dont like to reply if it has to be more than 2 sentences)
you're bound to find a guy that is just as nice and will like you for you and you wont have to work so hard. just know that if a guy really is into you, he will let you know.
here's a link to this author that was on Oprah a while back, wrote a book called "He's just not that into you."
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200409/tows_past_20040922.jhtml
that title isn't meant to upset you, but can give you some insight on possibly when the guy is interested in you, that way you don't end up sad or disappointed.
2007-12-20 19:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to seem desperate but that's what your being. You've done all you can by apologizing and sending him messages. If he doesn't want your friendship his loss not yours. Whether you think it's true or not there are better guys for you out there and ones that won't make you feel bad. Try concentrating on yourself for a while. You'll find out your not so bad after all.
2007-12-20 19:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him sorry if you want to . You could tell him that you didn't mean to make him mad, and that you want to get back together because you didn't want to split in the first place. Do what you feel is right. I fyou don't feel comfortable with any of the answers than just do what you want to do. It's just the internet so you do not have to take these peoples advice if you dont want to.
2007-12-20 19:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mistake 1: asking about his guy friends...
mistake 2: sending him an e-mail everyday that week.
chill for a bit...like a month....then just drop him a note.
a friendly note, not a "i wanna hook up" note. Take it slow, you have a lot of repairing to do.
2007-12-20 19:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by nAiRb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in ur shoes
trust me
yes, talk to him over myspace or whatever
just say hi
or wut up?
or something
don't say,
i miss u
or
i really like u
u'll seem desperate
if he answers u
AWESOME!!!
keep talking
but conversation like
just chat
after a while u'll probably
feel comfterable and he won't be as mad
apolagize
then iif ur ready say u liek him
if he won't talk 2 u,
he's not the right guy
best of luck!
2007-12-20 19:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Elle the Model♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time and if still doesnt alk call him and tell you are really sorry and tell him that u wont do it agian and stuff like that or see him in person
2007-12-20 19:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that love and like is not a one way street.. doesn't meent that if u like or love someone they have to like and love u back ... give him his space..
2007-12-20 19:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by striker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will seem like a desperate nerd. i wouldn't do it...you'll find someone else.
2007-12-20 19:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Giselle07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a lot of words
2007-12-20 18:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by ☮ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋