This is kinda long, but please read and let me know what you think! Please! Thanks! =]
So, theres this guy that I have dated off and on and after not talking for a month or 2, he asked me if I would go with him to his winter dance at school.
During the 1st song that we danced, he asked if it was ok that he danced with other people and that several girls had asked him to dance. Soo, he did and completely left me. Luckily his sister, which is my good friend, was there and I stayed with her the rest of the night, and then I left w/out speaking to him but then he saw me leaving and followed me and was like "I feel bad"..And I have not spoken a word to him since and its been almost a month.
My Question is....Should I still just not speak to him at all or should I confront him and ask him why he asked me?
Cauase he's just gonna go on like nothing happened and I want him to know that he hurt me and that what he did wasnt right, but would it be better if it looks like care less?
2007-12-20 10:45:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont wanna be all buddy buddy with him, If I talk to him , I just want him to know that he cant treat me like that.
yeah, Im moving on, I was kinda on the fence about if I liked him "like that" or not so, this just showed me!
but would it be better for him to KNOW that I have no desire to talk or just confront him and see what excuse he can come up with.
Im not gonna take him back, I just wanna see what he has to say
2007-12-20 10:56:05 · update #1
This guy is a jerk and what he did was so disrespectful. When a boy asks a girl out to a formal dance the night should be all about her... he's a rude inconsiderate moron and you should feel lucky and happy that you know this. He showed his true colors that night.
If you really have to get closure just tell him that he acted like a complete jerk and whatever else you want to say to him. But honestly I don't think you should waste your breath.
He obviously doesn't know how to treat a girl the right way. You can find someone that will treat you right and with respect. Ignore that loser and move on.
2007-12-20 10:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Carpe DM™ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that you have good cause to be upset with this guy.You did not deserve this treatment( no body does) especially since he asked you to the dance. While there is nothing wrong with him dancing with others, he should not have ignored you all night, nor abandoned you , or left you alone all night. I feel he owes you an apology---a truly sincere one---and maybe a small gift as a token of that apology. I suggest that you let him know how much he hurt you, embarrassed you, and mistreated you.Be gracious if he is apologetic and sorry for the way he behaved and accept any olive branch he offers you.
2007-12-20 19:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww, that sucks and what he did was awful. He knows you were upset when you started to leave without him but if he hasn't been the one to confront YOU and continue to tell you how sorry he was even the next day, he's probably not a friend worth having. Your better off without him because you deserve to be respected by your boyfriends, friends, ex boyfriends, and anyone else in your life. If he doesn't respect you, which it doesn't sound like he does, its better just to move on with your life without him. If he hasn't showed yet that he is sorry since the dance, you telling him now probably won't make him feel anymore sorry. Thats just who he is.
2007-12-20 18:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to just MOVE ON. Hes playing games with you. The fact that he ditched you when he asked YOU to the dance should be a HUGE clue that hes no good. Thats so childish of him to do that. If you go back to talking to him and forgive him MORE THAN LIKELY hes gonna continue to do kiddie stuff like that to you because he knows that he can get away with it.
I advise you to move on, leave that guy alone, and find a guy whos mature and worth your time.
2007-12-20 18:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't spoken to him for a month about this then of course he's not going to talk about it either, he thinks it's over. You need to let this go. He's not worth it and you can do better. Besides, if you ask him he won't give you any answer that you want. Move on and find someone cute.
2007-12-20 19:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by nena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing it up after a month will make it seem like you were dwelling over him. Just shrug it off. What are you going to gain from letting him know that he hurt you? I think not talking to him send the message already. If you start talking again, then just be non-chalant about it. If he asks you out, then let him know what you think.
2007-12-20 18:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl he's an ***! Move on! Im sure hes not the only guy in school.
For future refrence guys seem to be drawn to girls that ignore them or play hard to get. Be cool with him in school just dont hang on every word he says. Definitly dont have sex with him cause that will get you no where but pregnant!
2007-12-20 18:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by kbmars01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did try to apologize by trying to tell you he felt bad. I think you should decide to forgive him, and be willing to tell him that his actions did hurt you quite a bit. I think you should also tell yourself that he likes you more as a friend, and you should firmly put him in the ¨acquaintance"category unless he shows a real change of behavior. But do not avoid/shun him any longer. That is not healthy for you.
2007-12-20 18:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by No substitute for privacy online 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if its been a month then why would you want to talk to him now? Just move on. Hes not interested you & you deserve much better than some jerk.
2007-12-20 18:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Megan 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Don't go dancing w/ other girls after he asked you. I would say, Good Ridance!
2007-12-20 18:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋