A year ago I lost someone who was very special to me she was my mother in la and i loved her so much?

Question

I thought of her as my own mom and every now and then i get deppresed I havent worked in about 2 years and i just got hired about 1 week ago and for some reason i feel like crying all the time when i think about her at work ? can somebody tell me if this is normal ??? am I not over it yet ? and what can i do ?? please advise.

Answer 1

i think that for these past 2 years you related not working with your mother in law and now that your breaking that pattern your thinking about her more then ever. this will pass soon , and after a little bit at work youll see the change. i hope things get better for you :)

Answer 2

Sometimes mourning can take a long time. Don't shove your feelings aside or be ashamed of feeling sad, and don't run away from memories that make you sad--it'll just make the process even longer. If you find work difficult, you may need to get therapy; sometimes we can't do things ourselves.
You are so lucky to have a mother-in-law that you loved. I will not be so lucky. Try telling your close friends wonderful things about her--you'll probably bawl while you do it, but it's a good way to help along the healing process, and that's what friends are for!

Answer 3

Who is to say what normal is right? You're in the grieving process and there's no timeline - it's different for everyone. I would talk to your doctor about either going to a few therapy sessions or maybe on an anti-depressant. There's a really supportive website that I joined when I was going through my hard time. It's www.dailystrength.org - it's free and it's the only thing that brought me through, you can talk to people going through the same thing, having a hard time in grieving, and/or depression - anything - it's really helped me, I hope it can help you. I wish the best for you.

Answer 4

been there seen it and done it, and yes it is normal, "time heals all wounds" nothing you can do but cherish the memories and the good times, remeber the person fondly and if you have kids tell them about her/him and what a great person they were. a number of religions believe that the deceased lives on only in the memory of their love ones, celebrate their lives, and live as they would have wanted you to. i an sure that they would not want you to continually grieve, but tears are normally as is sadness when thinking about them. I did not experience a loss till i was in my late 20's and now 30 years later i still grieve when thinking about them. my children are named for my ancestors, and i have told them all about how great they were. I believe it makes my kids better and stronger knowing who they are named for and what great folks they were. You will heal, but the memories are always bitter sweet, may he who is the almighty no matter what religion you profess give you strength and courage and peace.

Answer 5

I lost someone I loved very much on Christmas Eve. The death of your loved one, your new job, and the holiday season have combined to make a giant stress issue. Try to relax, don't cry at work, take it minute by minute. You can get through this. You can do it!

Answer 6

It usually takes about two years to get over the death of someone. There is such a thing as missing someone forever and getting teary eyed once in a while.
You should consider therapy if you think it interferes severely in your life.

Answer 7

No! It's not normal. You are suffering from chronic depression. Seek psychological counseling immediately. You can be cured with the right therapy. Good luck!

Answer 8

just try and forget her
calm down
make sure you have long sleeps
then youll be better
u make me sad because my great grandpa died when i was born

Answer 9

It is normal, get a girlfriend to forget about it.