So I have a new apartment & I kinda share it with my bf. He comes & stays the night like everyday/ all wk. I dont mind b/cwe love eachother & hes awesome company. Well Ive left my apartment for the next 3 wks or so 2go home for christmas break. I figured hed wanna come by to get a break from his family b/c sometimes its chaotic over there. Anyway, b4 i let I told him he could go by whenever since I gave him a key, but only him, not anyone in his family or friends absolutely noone. He said ok. Then he calls me the same night I leave and asks me if his bro can stay w/him that night b/c he was lonely I said sure, even though i was irritated that he was asking even though I already told him noone was to be in my house. I said sure thinking it was going to be for that one night. Well theyve been there everyday since the day I left. I think its rude. he says his parents are crazy and he likes that he and his brother can have that getaway. I dotn think my aparment is a vacation spot.
2007-12-20 09:51:12 · 8 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and I dont feel they are respecting that. The cable, internet, and electricity and the rent have already been paid. they are there living scott free. I dont mind my bf there, but even so not everyday. I thinks thats stepping boundries and especially w/his brother. I dotn really like his brother b/c hes disrespectful 2 his mom & he only speaks 2 me when he needs something. he is a user, I dotn want him using my house. So as to not cause strife b/c i know their bond, i did not attack his brother directly, i said you guys need to find another "getaway" b/c its ridiciulous, its like you guys planned it, the minute im gone, party time? i feel as though they are testing out my place to see whats it like when they get their own. Ive had enough. I told him how I felt and he said i was being selfish, since i wasnt even their, and I have a mine mine attitude. he also said i was acting liek a 5 yrold. he then said he doesnt wanna stay inmy house anymore whether im there or not? whos right?
2007-12-20 09:51:30 · update #1
Tell your boyfriend and his brother to take a hike and don't forget to leave the keys! Oh gosh he is taking advantage of your good nature and you don't want to be a doormat so girl make sure you get your keys back and kick him to the curve if he can't respect your wishes, your privacy and your apartment and things. "Go home boyfriend and brother go home".
2007-12-20 10:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much sounds like your bf is a user too. He is using his charm to get the things he wants. The longer you stay with him, the worse it will get.
When you get home, put him out. Let him worry about finding his own place. Sure it was planned that his brother would stay there. You know it, as does everyone else.
good luck, don't worry about it now, have a great holiday and take care of it when you get home.
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 18:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Fordman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is your BF and not husband I'd make him pay if he is going to stay there. Its YOUR place, not ya'lls place. If you dont want to ask him to leave or feel uncomfortable doing so then tell him you want help with the bills if he is going to stay there and have his ppl stay there too. If his Brother is being a jerk to you then I would simply say no he cant come over. I had to do that with my wife, it sucked at first cause she didnt like it, but eventually it will be better. Just tell him how you feel and if he respects you he will understand.
2007-12-20 18:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Hoppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ! It's your apartment isn't it? Not only is his brother a user he is too! You really need to get rid of that thing!
2007-12-20 17:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your apartment so it's your choice and what you say goes whether he likes it or not. He needs to respect that regardless who is right or wrong.
BUT i would say pick your battles. if this is VERY important to you and he loves you he'll understand. How ever you love him so can you let something like this slide? really who is it hurting?
2007-12-20 18:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick your boyfriend out and hes brother aswel. then get a new boyfriend :)
2007-12-20 17:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should get rid of your bf lol
2007-12-20 17:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and not us.
2007-12-20 17:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋