Im a schoolgirl in highschool, my exact age I won't tell but I need to know something. When is the correct time for a girl to have sex? I don't want an answer telling me that "When I'm ready", I need an age. Please guys, I want someone to be honest with me. I have a boyfriend that I really love. And I'm not going to wait till I'm married...
2007-12-20 09:40:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can tell you when the right time is for YOU.
Your heart will tell you when the right time is and you should give no weight to ANYONE who tells you anything different.....
2007-12-20 09:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say "I need an age" - there is no such thing as the right age. There is only a right time, and sorry if that's not what you want to hear.
If you want an age, the law states that you must be 16 for a reason!
But really it is down to when you feel ready. Ask yourself the following questions:
> Do I know about contraception? Do I feel comfortable using it? Do we both feel comfortable talking about it? Would I know what to do if it failed?
> Do I feel that my boyfriend really loves me and isn't pressuring me?
> Do I feel mostly excited about having sex? Am I sure that I'm not petrified or dreading it?
If you can say yes genuinely to all of the above, then it is up to you whether you have sex. Make sure your first time is special, or you will regret it.
If you are younger than 16, I would tell you to wait. But you should do what you want to do.
2007-12-20 10:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My honest answer is that if you have to ask you are not ready! I know you may think that is lame but if a young person asks when the time is right that is usually because they are trying to get someone else to take responsibility for that decision. When you are ready, you will know and to be honest it will probably just happen. Legally here in the UK you have to be 16, many girls younger than this are having sex, but that all it is - sex. You want the first time to be memorable for all the right reasons not all the wrong ones.
For me the right time was when I was 16 almost 17, it just felt 'right' and it was the next stage in my relationship with my b/f. There was no pressure and no regrets! But then each person is different.
When you do decide to have sex, please make sure you use contraception. Not just to prevent pregnacy but against STIs too. Remember it only takes once!
2007-12-20 10:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have sex when you feel ready to " DON`T YOU THINK YOU SHOULD ALSO HAVE SOME CONTRACEPTION AS WELL " .... the reason i say that is because you don`t mention it in the question ???? and i`am sure you don't want to be a mom at your young age !!!!!!!
having sex isn`t a game to play well it is really and a very good one but remember one thing the moment you have sex with this boyfriend he is going to tell all his mates then they are going to say to themselves this girl go`s man then when you refuse one he will just tell lies about you that is when your troubles will start given a reputation for doing nothing...
men especially teenage boys don`t take rejection very well they have a tendency to save face and lie.....
I can honestly say i lost my cherry at 13 and ive enjoyed the fruit of the apple ever since, but the decision is up to you reason it is something that you can only give away once !!!!!
2007-12-20 10:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by ICEMAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not an exact age that you need to have sex. You need to feel it and if that's your case then go for it. If this person loves and respects you there is nothing wrong with it. Just remember that the longer you hold on the more the person will respect you. Just remember the consequences of having sex. If your going to do it than be responsible about it. Unless your ready to become a mother and at your age in highly doubt it.
2007-12-20 09:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard question to answer.. It all depends on you and how you feel. I lost my virginity when i was 15. Which was WAY too young! My advice to you is to wait till your about 19 or 20. Or, just whenever you feel time is right. No body can give you an exact age.
2007-12-20 09:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not something that should be based on age.
A person is read to have sex when they are capable of handling the potential consequences. When you are ready, please please use a method of birth control. But even though they are reliable, they aren't 100% sure. So if you couldn't financially or emtionally handle a baby or an std, you aren't ready to have sex.
If you aren't ready for a baby, you aren't ready for sex, at any age!
If you aren't going to wait until you are really ready, then you should wait until you have graduated from high school.
2007-12-20 09:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the answer you want to hear, but when you're ready. There is no set age when humans are ready to have sex. If you're ready, you will know. If you want to have sex, do it. If you are scared about it, you're probably not ready. Really, an arbitrary number isn't going to help you.
2007-12-20 09:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is your 14 or 15 your body is telling you your ready but until your 16 the boy in question could be in trouble . Trouble with a capital T .so my question to you is do you love him enough to keep him out of trouble.
2007-12-20 10:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by puzzled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
16
2007-12-20 09:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
you will know if your ready...you will feel it there is no correct age or correct answer to this question it all depends on how you feel...if you are sure that you love him then you might feel that its right well then it is right but if you just want to lose it just ot lose it then its not right. you will know...if you feel comfortable then go ahead but if you dont then it is probably not the time...but if you do decide to then make sure you used protection...you dont want to become pregnant.
2007-12-20 09:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by AmandaLynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋