I have decided on a great way to propose to my boyfriend. He was psyched for me to propose...I was psyched to propose to him.
Now I'm having second thoughts. I think we should be together longer and that we should wait until we're both living in the same town before we decide. I think I will wait a year.
Problem is, the proposal idea was scheduled for Feb. 29th (a day that won't be around next year...) It also takes place in New York City (where I currently live...and won't be living next year). Even though I don't think I'm ready to propose, I still want to do all the special things I'd planned for that day -- leaving him instructions to meet me at the Natural History Museum, followed by a brisk walk in Central Park and then going to Grand Central Terminal (where we first met) and popping the ?
Is there a way to do all this romance without it being a proposal? Is there another way to spin the situation? Ideas? Or will it seem odd to not ask "Will you marry me?" at the end?
2007-12-20 09:37:19 · 7 answers · asked by weirdiscomplimentary 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think if he's all psyched for you to propose, all his expectations are for that to happen. Going through the motions but in the end saying "let's just stay they way we are for now" will be like an anvil dropped on his heart.
If you still want the special day be honest, tell him you're not quite ready to propose BEFORE the day, but that you still want to have a special day with him. Don't let him go through all the instructions only to break his heart in the end.
2007-12-20 09:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he already knows that you were planning to propose on that day, there is no way to just get out of it; you need to talk to him and be honest. It would be the most cruel and disappointing thing to do, to go through all this and to have him think it's going to happen - and then simply not ask. Be direct, and let him know you're not ready yet.
2007-12-20 18:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him just that since there is not Feb 29 this year we will celebrate waiting for the perfect day to arrive. I still wanted it to be a special evening so will you except my proposal 2008 plus one day, OR you all were being premature so talk about it before hand and tell the truth, we really rent ready for marriage yet so I still planned a fun and great weekend
2007-12-20 17:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not get engaged and not set a date? or set one for a couple of years ahead of time so you can live together and see how it goes from there. That way, you can still propose the way you want, you will be engaged, but there is not a time limit on things.
2007-12-20 17:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Smith 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean...but your first mistake was telling him you were going to propose....
why?
In order to fix this, just still propose to him but don't set a wedding date yet, plenty of people do this!
2007-12-20 19:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's expecting the "will you marry me" then he will be disappointed. So if he is expecting it and if you're not going to do it then you need to tell him that. If he's not expecting it, then you could do all that, then maybe have dinner for him at the end (like a picnic??)
2007-12-20 17:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by JK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a statement of promise to eachother, promise rings and such!
2007-12-20 21:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋