I just broke up with my kids dad my 3 year old boy is having a hard time I am scared he might get sick he hardly eats he's quiet and he stays laying down watching tv. Please I can not go back with him I'm tired of his bull****** I want to help my son feel better I hug him but he pushes away I hate this cause I am not the bad one???
2007-12-20 08:30:39 · 15 answers · asked by nacha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
talk about your sons dad to him, and try and give lots of cuddles, just make him feel loved,
2007-12-20 11:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a difficult situation. You have to be honest with your son and let him know that no matter what happens between you and his dad, you both still love him. Initially he may find it difficult to adjust, but you just have to keep being there for him and letting him know that he can come to you when he is ready.
It is also important that his dad still play an active role in his life. So if possible, let your son also spend time with his dad. You should also speak to his dad about how he is feeling, so you will be on one accord. Although you are not together does not mean that you don't both have the best interest at heart for your son.
2007-12-20 08:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by ken_ken0730 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ever speak bad of Dad. Have you tried talking to your ex and ask if he can at least call every night to say good night. Also, try to set up some visitation time so he can get the Daddy hugs that he is missing.
Hopefuly, your ex is missing his son as much as his son is missing him and will co-operate with you.
2007-12-20 10:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to let him just lay around and watch tv, that you can control! Let him call and talk to his Dad if he isn't coming to see him. Put a picture of his Dad or the two of them together in his room. Try and give him extra attention and do some fun things with him to keep his mind off of it.
2007-12-20 08:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. My son was 2 when his dad walked out of our life. Even though it's difficult, try not to verbally bash his father in the little guy's presence.
While you try to comfort him, it is normal for him to not let you. He's just missing his dad and he is too young to realize what a creep he is. As he grows up and "dad" suddenly wants to visit, your son will see him for who he is...mine did!
Given time, the father proves himself to be a jerk and then it's time for mom to "be there" for the child...at which time he will be glad you are there for him and never left..."like his dad."
My son is now 28 and he still despises his dad. Hope your future turns out bright as well.
2007-12-20 10:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by judbie46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. This is touchy. He's going to be upset for a while, but you have got to be patient. First, sit the little guy down and explain things to him. Try to use illustrations, pictures. Ensure him that things will be ok and that you love him very much. Don't bad mouth your ex in front of him, ever. That is the worst thing to do. Let him draw his own conclusions about his dad.
2007-12-20 08:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Abena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two parents are better then one, even if the guy is a jerk. My daughter's father is a one of those, but he is good to our child. So I just shrug it off and know that letting my daughter have a relationship with her father is more important than any grudge I hold against him. I grew up with a mother with abandonment issues. That carries through a lifetime. You can be the bigger better person through this and it will make you that much stronger. Good luck.
2007-12-20 08:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by CAR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, Do not tell him bad things about his father. Just because you two don't get along doesn't mean you have ruin it for the boy. If you put down the dad it just shows him what kind of a loser you'll sleep with.
2007-12-20 08:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Capt. Frank 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to let your son spend some time with his father. He is not used to not having Daddy home all the time and misses him. Give them some father son time.
2007-12-20 08:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time and adjusting for him may take some time. he may cry nights and be upset and not know what's really going on.. Have a short mommy/son talk ,, reassure him it wil be ok.. Give him time to adjust and yourself. Do some fun things with him,,play games and have some healthy quality time ,you and the child.. He'll catch on a little later.. Good luck to you both.
2007-12-20 08:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by hiba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋