My son is 9 and really starting to question Santa. I know he'll eventually figure it out...but I'd like to perpetuate the myth as long as I can...I may only have this year to do it. When he was little, we'd leave a few cookie crumbs and a little milk at the bottom of the glass. Last year I wrote him a letter on paper I burnt around the edges...good thing he didn't notice the similarity to my handwriting! He's written "Santa, Are you real? If so, come to my room." on the back of his list this time. Any thoughts for this year? Thanks and happy holidays!
2007-12-20 08:26:26 · 27 answers · asked by disen87 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Let me add that we are not Christian so Christmas for us is only Santa, the tree, presents, etc. Also, his friends are in the same state as he is. For us, its just part of the magic of that innocent age to keep wonder and fantasy of it...like Disney :)
2007-12-20 13:57:09 · update #1
One year my parents took some big boots and covered the bottoms in ashes from the fire place and made foot prints on the floor like they were footprints from Santa.
Maybe you could do that in his room to make it look like he came in? (Don't worry--it cleans up fine).
2007-12-20 08:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by adrian♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son has also questioned me about Santa too. Of course he says some kids do not get gifts from Santa or they don't think that Santa is real. I just let him know that EVERYONE is different & believes different things. You cannot always see things you believe in like Santa, God, etc... but we know how we feel about them and that's what matters. We told our sons that we pay (donate) money to Santa though because he has soooo many kids to provide for and can't possible make every toy when it's esier to buy aleast some of them. He noticed last year the wrapping paper & tags was some Santa used, I told him I left in on the table with the milk & cookies just incase he needed any. I know this might be the last year my son actually still believes but I know he still does at the moment, he sat on Santa's lap at the mall and afterward he said he didn't think that was a santa helper because this santa had a real beard! (He really did look like the real santa!) I still believe in Santa, do you? Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 22:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by candygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But Santa isn't real! At nine, your son needs to know the truth. If you try and convince him he's real when he's this age, he will stop trusting you altogether when he learns the truth. I was nine before I discovered that Santa wasn't real - all my school friends knew already. I felt humiliated by being the last to know, and found it very hard to trust my parents again.
You can still do presents, even stockings, and decorations and Christmas food without having to pretend that the gifts come from Santa. It's much nicer when the children know that the presents come from people who love them rather than some bizarre old man who flies around the world in a sleigh pulled by reindeer.
2007-12-21 14:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kukana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate what you are trying to do, and I hope that you are correct in your thinking that "all of his friends" still believe in Santa. This could become really embarrassing for your son to be defending the myth of Santa around other kids and then they'll end of making fun of him. Sorry, I don't want to be a party pooper and I totally understand wanting to keep the myth alive for as long as possible, I just don't want for your child to become the but of jokes because of it.
All that being said, have you considered trying to enlist the help of a friend, neighbor or relative that your son is not familiar with to dress up as Santa and come over in the middle of the night. My parents did that for me when I was about 6 and they still wont tell me 30 years later who the Santa was. Anyway, they let him in at 5 a.m. or so and "something" woke me up and I came in to find him just taking the last package out of his sack and then he left. He didn't say a word. It was pretty awesome and something that I never forgot.
Good luck.
2007-12-20 23:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what my parents did and we believed for a LONG time.
They would have two of my brother's friends come over on Christmas Eve. One would be on the roof running around so it sounded like the sleigh had landed and the reindeer were on the roof.
We always had a fire going so the second friend would go to the front door and leave the sack of presents and bang on the door and run away from the house ringing bells.
While he was at the front, my parents shooed us out the back to try and see the roof. But by then the banging on the front door and the sound of bells had us running back to the front. They would always pretend to see the sleigh in the sky. And hearing the bells made it so believable.
They would mix it up, some years it would be the front door and some years it would be the back door. But we fell for it for a long time. As we got older, the bigger kids helped "keep it real" for the younger ones.
Hope this gives you some ideas to go on. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 16:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by booboo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is what my parents might do to convince my brother (he's 9 too). They are getting him Anamorphs books or somthing like that, which they found new on Ebay. There is more than 1 of the same kind, so my parents are gonna make some come from Santa, and others (the same kind as "Santa" brought) will be wrapped and given to my brother as presents from Me or my parents. In that case, he will get the same present twice, and he knows that Santa would never give two of the same thing! i think it's a good idea... but he's gonna find out sooner or later...
Good Luck & Merry Christmas!
P.S. That was kinda worded confusing... sorry! do you get it?
2007-12-20 20:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Corey <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old did this to me last year!
What I did was made Santa "call him" Christmas Eve. My husband went for a drive and called our house from his cell-phone. I handed the phone to my son and "Santa" explained that he was very busy this Christmas and that he couldn't have time to stop and come up to everyone. My husband put a tissue over the mouth piece of his phone and talked in his fake accent that he uses to impress people.
If you are a single parent then have a good friend or a sibling make the call.
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 17:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One time, I found a present that we really wanted: a Nintendo 64. I told my mom that she should just give it to us. I just found out that she filled the box with rocks, wrapped it and set the game system up like Santa always did. We saw the game system and moved on to the other presents. Then we opened the box full of rocks and we were so confused. My sister then said "Santa MUST be real because theres no way they can afford TWO of these!" lol
2007-12-20 16:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Spongeluv11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what I did to convince my 8 year old nephew, when he spent the night Christmas ever I got a friend of mine(yes male, yes older) to dress up as Santa and go wake him up. This works best with a friend who he doesn't know. my nephew thought it was great that the "REAL" Santa came to see him. and you can also have Santa take a cookie(be eating it with the glass of milk in hand) when he goes up to see your son.
Mad_Catz
the older friend thing is so he has his own beard, and your son can't ripp it off.
2007-12-21 18:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is time for him to know the truth since he suspects already, he goes to school and probably most or all of his friends know already that Santa is not real, specially the ones with older siblings, you don't want his friends laughing at him. My son is the same age and I had to brake the news to him because of that reason, he perfectly understood, now his job is to keep the fantasy going for his little sister.
2007-12-20 16:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by mma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your son to continue with the Santa myth. If he doesn't beleive forcing him to isn't going to make him do so. Your son will be entering puberty soon (if not already) it is time for him to cast off some of the childishness whether or not as a mom you are ready for him to do so. Children don't grow according to mommie's time table...
2007-12-20 22:11:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋