he is a good person exept for the fact that he uses cocain he has always had everythig we come from a good family were in good shape economicaly and all my brothers and sisters he is the only one that has problems every one trys to help him bt he just doesnt care one day he is happie the other he is not and tells evryone not to talk to he I pay him good for what he does in my company he doesnt pay rent bills or any living expence but yet he cant afford to buy a pair of shoes wich tells me that he spend his entier pay check on the drug.if someone could please guide me to help hm please.
2007-12-20 08:21:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I agree with "the_only"
You are adding to the problem by supplying his income. Would you tolerate any of your other employees if they were using cocaine or another drug?
You need to use "Tough love" Tell your brother you will fire him if he doesn't get help, and, of course, offer to help him. If he refuses, then you will have to fire him. A lot of people do not realize they have a drug or alcohol problem until they hit rock bottom -- no more job, home, family or friends.
2007-12-20 08:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Vera C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is spending his entire paycheck on drugs. That's what us addicts do. The addiction gets to the point that rent, car payments, even food just don't matter anymore - we must have our high. Unfortunately, tough love is sometimes necessary. Maybe suggest to him that he can no longer work for you until he gets help - let him know you'll have a job waiting for him after he is released from rehab. Giving ultimatums isn't always easy, but in the world of addiction, us addicts must lose everything and be at our bottom before we'll consider getting help.
2007-12-20 09:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by krista 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he admitts that he has an addiction, that is the first step. second, you need to help him find a rehab facility so he can get help asap. I am a 20 yr old male, and i know what your brother is going through. Ive done coke a few times and its a serious drug and its very hard to stop. rehab s definately needed and dont give him any money because he will just buy more.
Best of luck
2007-12-20 08:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Hendrix 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its really hard for people to quit...alot of people dont care what you say ....so if you want him to quit try talking to him if it doesnt work...tell him youll fire him i know its harsh but sometimes you have to be really heartless to help the people you love... ecspecially if drugs are involved..this might not work... it might take rehab or an overdose to make him relise what hes doing ....and the mood swings probably have to do with it ...when hes happy he probably got his fix...if hes pist he probably ran out or is coming down because cokes an upper.....and cokes really expensive so yeah thats where his money is most likely going and if hes doing coke he might be doing another drug to help him come down...
2007-12-20 08:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by LP 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are doing is enabling his habit. You know he has this addiction, yet you pay him money to go out and buy more? Family member or no, he is a liability to you and to your company. Tell him he has to go to rehab, or he is fired.
2007-12-20 08:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋