I broke up with my fiance after he slept with my best friend 2 years ago.
I broke my relationship with my best friend too. You can imagine what I've been through .
Now just a couple of days ago, I ran into my ex fiance and my ex best friend together at the grocery store and they're pregnant. I saw rings on their fingers so I guess they got married. The conversation was brief and awkward. I just acted like I'm happy and asked how they are and they faked their smile too and we continued shopping.
I'm so depressed and still single. My ex fiance still looked handsome (and I thought he would look messed up but he actually looked better!)
How do I move on?
2007-12-20 08:14:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let me tell you from personal experience that it will never stop hurting you. Even though you (if you're not already) will eventually get OVER him, the hurt and betrayal will never go away. I dated a guy for 3 years, we were very serious and I found out he had been cheating on me with another girl for 2 months. This was almost 5 years ago and although I am married now, happy, and we have a baby and one on the way, I will still never forget how it felt and I hope I NEVER see him again! It is normal to feel that way after seeing these 2 people who hurt you so badly. All you can do is not let him win by just being happy with yourself and who you are. I know that's easier said than done, but I wish you the very best of luck, and I hope you never ever run into them again. :)
2007-12-20 08:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Katie G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
To say that sucks would be an understatement. You're a better person than me because they only thing they would've gotten from the is the middle finger.
People might say "oh, you'll get over it." The sad fact is there are things in life you never get over, but you learn to carry on despite that. My advice is to get back into the swing of things. Go get a new haircut and color and try online dating. Not that appearance is that important but it sounds like you need a confidence boost and get your mojo back. Things happen for a reason that may not be apparent until later. Maybe this was the harsh reality you needed to make you think about moving on or consider a big change. I know it sounds cheesy but there's something better out there for everyone but you don't see it til you lift up your head and look around with clarity.
2007-12-20 08:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He's probably out cheating on his pregnant wife right now. If it was okay to do it 2 years ago, it's probably okay to do now in his eyes. Just be glad that you're not the one stuck in a dead-end relationship with a baby on the way. I can't see this relationship lasting a very long time and you should be happy you're not part of it!
Get out there, hang out with friends, have a good time, spend time with family, have fun. Don't lay around depressing over some loser who played you when you could be out living your life and being happy!
2007-12-20 11:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You move on by knowing that it would not have worked out with him and she was not a friend. You move on knowing that
it is better this happened before you married him then him cheat and you going through a divorce. I say there is a lid for every pot. You will meet the one. He is out there but, until you start putting yourself first and not dwelling on the past hurt there is no room in your heart or head for a new relationship.
I was with a guy for 10 years thought we were getting married we broke up I was the only single one out of the group I can say after several of my friends got divorced with in a few years I met my husband and with in 1 year we were engaged and 1 year later married. Still going strong. So now looking back I say it was worth the Wait.
Your time will come, trust me been in your shoes.
2007-12-20 08:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You have to take it a day at a time. After two years you must have been holding out some hope that the two of you would get back together? I would imagine they felt a bit guilty seeing you, but it sounds as if you pulled it off alright. Now is the time to concentrate on yourself, and not whether he is going to fall apart without your presence. If you are two years down the road of depression, perhaps counseling is in order to get you over the hump. He is the one who cheated, not you, so stop blaming yourself, stop fooling yourself. If he DID come back to you now, he would be even flakier than he was before. You have had a horrible betrayal by the two people in your life that you were closest to (outside your family). It takes time to get over it, but it can happen.
2016-04-10 10:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a night out with your other girlfriends, and maybe try to forget about guys for a while. While your out who knows you might run into a guy, but if you dont, dont worry you are out haveing fun, and i think thats what you need right now. I am sorry that you had to expierence that, it would be tough. Besides you seem like a strong woman, many guys fall for that!
2007-12-20 11:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well so they got married and having a baby, it happens all the time. They are your exes for a reason. Grab a friend and have a girl's day to keep it off your mind. Rent some movies, do your nails, etc. Anything to keep it off your mind. Maybe then go dancing andhave your friend bring her hot coworker or neighbor. You will find your Prince someday, promise.
2007-12-20 15:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to move on is to hang out with friends and go out with them to the movies, mall, clubing, drinking, anything that gets you out of the house and moving. This way you are spending time out and not spending time thinking about him. Good Luck!
ps be open to a relationship.
2007-12-20 08:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Starsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all and when least likely expect it good thing come.
He was obviously Mr.wrong and she was not to be trusted.So instead of dwelling on it consider yourself lucky that there out of your life.And any day from around the corner your life will change to the better when Mr. Right appears......Good Luck
2007-12-20 08:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, the way you get over something like this is "just do it". You kinda have to force yourself to move on. Find things you can engage in. Make new friends, nurture old friendships, date, socialize. Two years is quite a long time, you really should be feeling better by now. If you suspect you have clinical depression, please see a medical professional; it's a treatable condition, and it would be a shame for you to waste years of your life feeling this way.
2007-12-20 08:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋