I'm going crazy with my girlfriend. We've been dating for nearly two years, and we've certainly had our differences, including two break ups last winter, but we've managed to get through. Lately though I've just been numb towards her. I can't seem to find that spark between us anymore. I feel like I'm on autopilot with this girl, and it's killing me because I don't really want to break up with her- I just want to be interested in someone again. Part of me simply can't let go of this girl (I took her back when we broke up earlier), but part of me is really doubting we're really worth anything outside of just dating.
I'm no cheater, but the thought has crossed my mind more than once. I figure the fact that I'm even thinking this way is a bad sign.
Can anybody shed some light/offer some advice on this?
2007-12-20 08:05:16 · 8 answers · asked by TooMuch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're both early twenties, if that means anything. I know it's probably crazy for a 20 year old guy to even think this deep into a relationship- guess I'm just a sentimental fool.
2007-12-20 08:06:30 · update #1
If you're doubting it and thinking of cheating, she is probably not the one for you. End it gently before wasting any more of your time or hers.
2007-12-20 08:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pogo peeps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're very young to be so wise about listening to your gut. When you are aware that you're just going through the motions without the Emotions, it is time to sit back and think the relationship through very carefully. It's best to be honest with her about how you're feeling. Perhaps some space for a few weeks would be in order here. Can you get through Christmas without upsetting her (or probably both of you?) It doesn't have to be a huge break-up if you handle it gently and certainly be careful to not blame any of it on her. It's a tough one but it's better to be honest now than to put it off till it would be even harder to do. Good luck!
2007-12-20 08:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just too comfortable and you cant imagine being without her because you haven't been single in a while. If there is no spark then it is pointless to drag the relationship on any further. I think you think someone better will come along and you can just move on to someone else and not have to be single. You might as well just break up with her right now and save the trouble for both of you.
2007-12-20 08:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation. Sometime's relationships are addictive though. If you guys have been on and off again like you said, take a look at why you are really with her. Don't use love as a reason either...get to the concrete reasons of why you two are together , what makes the relationship good and what makes it bad, and why you keep taking her back. Make a list. If those good reasons are really important to you, then stay with her. If there's more bad then good, then leave. If those reasons are not reasons that you think are meaningful enough to keep going through this...then break it off with her and move on. Love is easy to fall into...but it's not enough to convince yourself to be unhappy.
2007-12-20 08:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by CoBo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I think it is, is that you've moved up a level in ur relationship and r no longer in that part of the relationship where ur silly and geting 2 no each other. 2 get a spark back should be easy just do something really romantic and xmas and valentines day r comin up so thats a good idea 2 do something then.
2007-12-20 08:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by XxAmyxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!! wait for the right girl. You are going to be with her for a very long time (hopefully), wait until sparks are flying- then make sure that you can cohabitate without complete war.
2007-12-20 08:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by William A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know but you do have a problem i would try talking to her about it. but it doesnt sound like you want to break up
2007-12-20 08:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by ooe4eva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u truly love her stay with her dont do any thing to piss her off, ask her wat she thinks about marigge
2007-12-20 08:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by TDB 3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋