Well we were (are) close friends
But I just met her in September
and I knew she liked another guy, and I told her to go for it and try it with this guy
and then I told her how I liked her
and she got mad at me and started to tell me how she doesn't understand why i would put her in that kind of situation and stuff
and how we were close friends but now shes not going to feel as comfortable with me. People have been telling me that if we really were close friends, then I should just give her some space and it'll blow over and we'll go back to being close again, and that she was just shocked that I told her.
so
Why did she say what she said, and why is she mad at me? and do you think we could be close friends again?
2007-12-20 07:52:16 · 14 answers · asked by George Johnson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she cares about you....maybe not the same way u do about her....but like she still is close to you..and she just didnt want to make you feel bad..i've been in that situation....and eventually u guys will be close friends again....she said that cuz she is close to you and felt bad for not likeing you too
2007-12-20 07:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kearisten 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your timing was just off. Just tell her that you are sorry for putting her in that situation but you had to tell her how you felt or you wouldn't be true to yourself. Tell her there is no pressure and whatever she decides, you'll always be her friend.
She is probably a little surprised and taken off guard. She probably thought she had finally found a guy who she could trust and be friends with only to find out that you had fallen under spell like the others. She may feel like you were not being honest with her since you kept your feelings away. Not saying that that's the case...just saying what may go through her mind. She probably is surprised and not sure if she wants to possibly blow a friendship to take a chance on love.
2007-12-20 08:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by CoBo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all she's mad because you knew that she liked someone else and you told her to go for it and then after that you tell her about your feelings. If you knew that you had feelings for her then why did you tell her to go for it. Basically you put her in a situation where she has to reject her close friend whom she feels extremely comfortable with and you made her really positive about going for the other guy and then took that positiveness away by making her realize that you want her to be more than friends with you. Apparently to her you're the guy she can rely on, the one she can be herself completely and see her in every way. You're so close that you're like brother and sister. By telling her that you have feelings for her that closeness is ruined. Right now she needs space , give her some time to think things through, shes very confused and did not want to hurt you. wait for her to talk to you if after a while she doesnt go tell her that you need to discuss what happend. make sure you explain why on earth u decided to tell her to go for sumthin when u knew that u had feelngs for her.
2007-12-20 08:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by effiligious313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's got you this confused now, be glad you were never more than friends. If you really had been friends, she wouldn't be mad at you, would she? You see......friends consider each others feelings. She only jumped directly to how you made her feel and ignored your feelings. I figure she knew you liked her anyway but was ok with it as long as she got to pretend she didn't know. Now you've taken away her ability to pretend. Honesty is not what she wanted. Next time just keep lying. It's what she wants. That way, it's always your fault for lying if it all goes wrong. You can't go wrong by allowing her to be the victim. It's what she wants.
2007-12-20 08:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initially, in the experience that your mom have been given mad at you for that for the time of the previous, why might you are trying this returned? Your basically decision is to declare sorry and she or he would manage to no longer hate you continuously for it. Your mom isn't in grade-college. She's an person and she or he's familiar with existence is going on. you need to say sorry and then EARN forgiveness. artwork greater no longer basic in the abode for a mutually as and be way nicer than regularly occurring to her. you need to understand which you mustn't giggle at human beings if it offends them.
2016-11-23 17:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she wants u to give her space. maybe she's just conflicted because she has had these feelings but never thought u did and now that shes ready to move on u decided to fess up. you didnt do anything wrong. maybe she's just got a big heart and is mad because now she thinks she will hurt u. ask her what she wants from u right now. not relationship wise. friendship wise. go from there. when this other guy doesnt pan out she will need ur shoulder.
2007-12-20 07:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She feels like what you said will ruin your friendship. You caught her off guard. Just let her know that you did not mean to upset her and that you still want to be friends. Then, your friends are right, give her some time and space and it will blow over. Then you can resume your normal friendship again.
2007-12-20 07:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think your pretty close to blowing it, she confided to you as a friend and you crossed the line a little bit . .doesnt sound like she really experienced, and probably have trouble dealing with different feelings she having, im sure what you shared confused her and probably reshaped the relationship, if i was you i would just give her some space, . . dont put more on her than she can handle, she sound fragile
2007-12-20 07:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by ed m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
possibly she is mad because she wanted you to tell her in the first place that you liked her before she started getting close to the other guy and when you said to go for it she might have thought that you didn''t like her..so now when she is involoved and unavailable you tell her and it puts a lot of pressure on her as far as trying to maintain the relationship with the other guy and her friendship with you...don't make her choose...be patient if it is meant to be it will be...good luck!
2007-12-20 07:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably feels the same way..but u went and told her to go with this other guy..so now shes confused..and mad at u for not telling her in the first place...give it time..she'll realize what she wants...
2007-12-20 07:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋