I went to a friends house. there was a bunch of drunk people and this guy kept throwing himself on me. I was playing Dance Dance Revoultion and i had to go to the bathroom so i walked up stairs to go. I locked the door and the next thing i know this guy walked in as i washing my hands and i was like what the fuc* are u doing get out. The music was really lound so i started to scream but no one heard me then he picked me up took me into a room and throw me on the bed and jumped on top me. He stared to take my colths off and so i grab the colest thing to me and i hit him with it and ran out the door and walked home. HOW DO I TELL MY BOYFRIEND
2007-12-20 07:45:52 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him. [InsertBoyfriendsNameHere], I went to a friends house, and there were a bunch of drunk people. This guy kept throwing himself on me. I had to go to the bathroom so I went upstairs and locked the door. The next thing I know, when I was washing my hands was him standing there. The music in the house was really loud so I started to scream but no one heard me. He picked me up and threw me on the bed. He started taking my clothes off so I grabbed the closest thing next to me and I hit him with it. I ran out the door and walked home. I wanted to let you know that. Thank you, Love, [YourNameHere].
You should tell an adult what happened. This is serious.
2007-12-20 07:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Got to your boyfriend and say;
"I went to a friends house. there was a bunch of drunk people and this guy kept throwing himself on me. I was playing Dance Dance Revoultion and i had to go to the bathroom so i walked up stairs to go. I locked the door and the next thing i know this guy walked in as i washing my hands and i was like what the fuc* are u doing get out. The music was really lound so i started to scream but no one heard me then he picked me up took me into a room and throw me on the bed and jumped on top me. He stared to take my colths off and so i grab the colest thing to me and i hit him with it and ran out the door and walked home."
Unless there is a reason for him not to trust you, he should understand. If you have not given him a reason to not trust you and he doesn't then find someone else.
2007-12-20 07:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Brick CEO 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you know your boyfriend is a rash and aggressive individual, you don't tell him. He might end up making things worse for your situation by trying to get into a fight or something. This would lead to him probably getting arrested. However, if you know that your boyfriend is a passive, peaceful person, then tell him and he will help you get through it. If you really need to tell someone, I'd say to tell a close girlfriend who you could trust to keep secrets. If you know or can Identify the person who did this to you, report it to the police and get a lawyer handy so you can press charges. This is a serious matter. Be happy that you were able to get away and you weren't raped.
2007-12-20 07:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by marvelgamer001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you should contact the police and tell them the story. Then long as you didn't do anything with the guy then your boyfriend shouldnt get mad at You. It's better to tell him right away before he hears it from someone else like the guy that did it. The guy could start rumors saying he had sex with you then your boyfriend would hear about it. The best thing to do is to explain to him everything that happened, don't let him be the last to know.
2007-12-20 07:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by coolbetcch. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, it is easier to tell a stranger things like this than it is to tell someone that you love. Sometimes you fear them asking too many questions or even treating you differently. Oddly enough, you may even fear them making things worse by lashing out at the person that hurt you. No matter what your fear is, you need to talk to him. Yes, it WILL be hard. Yes, it is going to be painful for a while, but you can get through this. There are millions of people that are rape survivors and attempted rape survivors. Find a counselor or a support group. You need to find a way to work through this in a healthy manner. No matter what, please, please, don't shut the people you love out. They care about you. Allow them to care about you in a time that you REALLY need them.
2007-12-20 20:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. he has a right to know. Sit him down when you are both alone, and tell him you need to tell him something that is really hard for you to talk about. Tell him the truth, and just take your time. He may get mad and ask who this lad was and will want to kick his ****, but try and talk to him calmly. Explain what happened, step by step and hopefully if he cares you about you as much as you hope he does, he will be understanding towards you and the situation. Its never a nice feeling about whats happened. This lad was very drunk and probably wouldnt have done i if he was sober. Alcohol does weird things to your mind. I know its hard, but just try and tell him, if you dont this may haunt you for the rest of your life. Be honest. Good luck xx
2007-12-20 07:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by ms_jaffa_cake 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You still should report this to the police. What if he were to do this again. Would you feel guilty if it happened because you didn't report it to the police? Granted, he wouldn't be locked up forever, but it COULD make an impact on him.
Plus - you assaulted someone - you did so JUSTLY, if what you said is true. But, he could call the police and make a report first - and tell some other story. The longer you wait, the less likely you will be believed.
Edit - thanks so much for the thumbs down - whoever did it. Geeze...
2007-12-20 08:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Too bad that you had that traumatic experience. You were assaulted, even if you weren't raped and it will take time to get over. The first thing I would suggest you do is contact your nearest rape crisis center or women's center for support. As to your boyfriend, just tell him. You did nothing wrong, the *******
that almost raped you was wrong. If you know who it was, you might want to consider a complaint with the police. You HAVE been traumatized and please realize that it is going to take you some time to get over it, which is why I am advising professional help. Good luck!!
2007-12-20 07:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by judithia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) I would first be worried about telling your parents first, the police, your friend who hosted the party.
And I would just simply tell your boyfriend and whoever else you need to tell, what you just said above. I hope you are not worried that your boyfriend is going to get mad at you??!?! If so, then he is not the guy you should be with, because it wasn't your fault.
I would just tell people the truth and go to some people who have authority and see what they can do. I'm sorry that happened to you!
2007-12-20 07:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Music chic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow thats a tough one, id just be honest with him, you could report this guy to the police as well, id tell your parents and see what they say also. But if this scumbag did it to you, he will do it again. Dont let your boyfriend take the law into his own hands or he could end up arrested, but make no mistake it sounds like this guy broke the law, avoid him for sure.
2007-12-20 07:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Farley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋