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my friend has liked the same guy for 3 years. they went out 3 times but it never worked. last year she asked him out again and he said no because it didn't work the other 3 times but despite that she still likes him. they still talk and stuff but i don't know what to do because i want to help. should i tell her to move on or to keep trying. also i like the same guy, which just confuses things even more!

2007-12-20 07:35:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

22 answers

Some people are just gluttons for punishment and never learn their lesson! Hopefully one day when she's grown up, she'll meet someone who is actually good for her. Not much you can do, really.

2007-12-20 07:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0 0

Hmmm...your last sentence makes this tougher than it could have been. If you like this guy and tell her to move on, but then start dating him yourself, you can probably consider the friendship over. However, to be a good friend, you do need to let your friend know that she is only hurting herself by hanging on to this guy. Tell her to go out and meet some new people. maybe she will find someone else and maybe she won't, but she will learn things about herself and will have fun.

That being said, I would stay away from this guy if I were you. Unless you really feel like this man is your soul mate, let it go. The old cliche is true...there are a lot of fish in the sea, and sometimes certain fish are better left alone.

2007-12-20 15:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by HollyPena 2 · 0 0

Well, does ur friend knows that u like this guy?
If she does, that is gonna cause a problem, she will probably think that u r telling her this just because u want him....i am pretty sure u dont want that.

If she doesnt know, just be a friend and tell her 2 move on because u r tired of seeing her get hurt. U can also tell her that she tried it for 3 times and makes her think that it is gonna work again.....that should help :-)

2007-12-20 15:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by chris brown #1 fan 2 · 0 0

well not being rude r you not wanting her to try so that you can have a shot. and if so does he even like you or do you both llike a guy that dont want you guys for nothing but friends or maybe because he feels impowered by you two. i think you both should find other men and then you wont take a chance on loosing a friend for something that will never work. the two of you should dress up go out together have fun and the men will come to you and there will be enough for both..

2007-12-20 15:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You have to consider why it didn't work out? So they tried it three times, okay, but what happened each time that made him say NO the fourth time? And she has to come to these conclusions herself, you CAN'T tell her, 'cause if you like him, too & try to go for it, she'll probably think you just wanted her out of the picture. Also, if your friend is anything like you, then you might want to think about how what happened with her, may happen to you too. THINK it over before yo try to say anything, b/c you might lose a friend if you don't give her time & let her realize things on her own.

2007-12-20 15:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by gfp45 2 · 0 0

Life sometimes is not like a train where one alone is allowed at a time look at it in three dimension fly you dont even have to tell your friend go right ahead and mesmerise the guy if it is a yes then your friend can be thought of if not you can get back to your helping act....serious

2007-12-20 15:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by funman 3 · 0 0

Tell her to move on. He most not like her very much if they arent together and she shouldnt waist her time on a guy that she cant have a relationship with. If you brake up 2 times why would you get back together. She needs to find her a new man and get over this guy. Then after shes dating someone else and over him. Mabe you could date him!!!! (But remember Chicks before *****!)

2007-12-20 15:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by jessicab_8706 1 · 0 0

Let things go the way they should. Don't get involved because you like the same guy so you of course will tell her to move on to leave this space free to you.

2007-12-20 15:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Diana 5 · 0 0

Yes she should move one. But I think she is not your friend because you like the same guy you know that when she finds out she is so not going to be your friend why if theres plenty of guys there why him.Good Luck

2007-12-20 15:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by janet_23 3 · 0 0

Yes, he definitely doesn't sound interested, which may be why she still likes him; (cause he's a challenge).

I would be very careful when it comes to you liking this guy. Is he worth ruining a friendship over?

Does he like you?

Anyway, I would suggest you find a way to get her to forget about this guy. A new interest is easiest.

Good Luck & Happy Holidays!

2007-12-20 15:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Elf 2 · 0 0

You should stay out of your friend's romances. It will only get you in trouble.

And for the time being - if you value your friend, steer clear of her love interest - even though he's not interested in her.

Now if love interest should suddenly be interested in you - well, that's another matter. Tell him about your friend being interested in him and tell him (not ask him) to wait a while before starting anything - even going out for a soda.

But YOU stay out of her love interests. there's nothing you can do except be a friend (one who picks up the pieces) in silence.

2007-12-20 15:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0 0

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