I have been looking for a job for 6 months, and I am getting frustrated. I had only two interviews. My sister is substantially younger than me, and has 3 jobs. My family and I were having dinner together and my dad really upset me. He and I are very close and he always says things to me like, something will come through for you. And, he tells my sister "I AM SO PROUD OF YOU". But, I am starting to question if he really means what he is saying to me. Recently, at the dinner table, in front of countless relatives, he says, I am not worried about Jacqueline (my sister) because she will always have a job. She wants something out of life. I got upset and fired right back. What do you mean? I have been looking high and low for a job. He told me I was too sensitive. Do you think I am overreacting, or were his true feelings exposed without him recognizing it. Please advise, I am very upset.
2007-12-20 07:34:59 · 8 answers · asked by Jaysgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
People get jobs for different reasons. Maybe you are not anything like your sister. Maybe she is determine to buy something with her money she is getting and you don't need anything like that. Or maybe you are not devoted into really getting a job because then that would take away from social activities.
I think you are a little emotional about this. If your dad was discussing your sister with someone else, maybe your name didn't come into the picture. You have nothing to worry about at all. I think he just made a comment because she works too much.
2007-12-20 09:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father was being exactly that-a dad. He did show an incredible lack of tact in saying something like that in front of the family. It's too late now to take his comment back, but maybe you could try having a 1 to 1 talk with him and tell him exactly how that made you feel. How would he react if the tables were turned and you said something like that in front of family? I'll bet any amount of money he'd be a tad sensitive too. I know how hard it is to find a job and hopefully, your father will come to understand that. Ask him to cut you a little slack and encourage you instead of the way he's acting now.Good luck with finding a job. It's out there and you're trying. Give yourself a pat on the back.
2007-12-20 07:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by phlada64 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that he just said he felt like he didn't have to worry about your sister does say that he does have some concerns for you. But why wouldn't he as you are not working right now and having a hard time finding a job? You say your Dad is normally supportive and you have a good relationship, so I find it hard to believe that he would embarrass you in front of so many other people. So you probably were a little over sensitive.
2007-12-20 08:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too sensitive, your dad's opinion means alot to you and any comment chaps your hide cause its a sensitive subject w you. Would you be mad if a friend said it? Sounds like you just wish he was taking about you instead of her.You could have gave her props she's doing well. Try to be more gracious about things or your family will only remember you being a crabby big sis around the holidays!
2007-12-20 07:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're upset and frustrated by the demoralizing condition of being unemployed, with few nibbles (being that, doing there).
Therefore, you overreacted to his remark about your sister, which wasn't about you at all.
He probably cares about you, and is worried, and sad that you're in this unpleasant state.
I don't think you have reason to think he was saying anything about YOU at all.
2007-12-20 13:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to readjust your salary requirements downward and build your resume a little more. Once you have a job, it is easier to jump to another job.
Have your dad review and help edit your resume to make sure it sounds right and is professional.
Yes, it kind of sounds like he is trying to motivate you to get out there and land a job.
2007-12-20 07:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His words came out wrong but he ws just trying to show he's proud of her. Once you get a job, he'll be talking that way of you too! hang in there!!
2007-12-20 07:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can see why you'd be upset. However; if you and your dad are close, I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you - it was probably just a slip up on his part.
2007-12-20 07:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋