So when we grew up christmas was always with my parents on the eve. Now all the kids are grown up and out for a long time. 1 brother lives far away and spends his with his kids and grandkids, 1 sister lives kind of far away and has no one but her husband , cause she is an alcoholic and no one likes her any way. and 1 brother lives close is 41 and is engaged to a 23 year old and caters to her every wim. And then there is me who still believes that christmas is time to be with FAMILY and friends. My parents totally count on me for everything because I am the closest. So many years ago I decided to quit catering to the parents and the in laws and started having christmas at my house. EVERYONE AND ANYONE INVITED. My parents came the first couple times and now they are back on this christmas should be the kids coming to the parents kick again! my children sing in church on x-mas eve @ 5pm and it is a 3 hour drive to there house. I told them to come here and they could stay.
2007-12-20 07:24:36 · 5 answers · asked by lilyjo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
AM I TOTALLY BEING UNREASONABLE HERE?
2007-12-20 07:24:56 · update #1
No you are not. Perhaps you could put them up for a motel for the night or allow them to stay at your place.
Your kids' church choir at 5 p.m. is more of a priority. It would be wonderful if their grandparents could come and watch them sing.
2007-12-20 07:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a brother old enough to be a grandpa, I'm guessing your parents are quite old and truthfully, it may be getting to the point where they are physically or emotionally unable to handle a 3 hour trip, even if they live alone. And admitting that you can no longer do the things you used to take for granted all the time (like driving a car) can be EXTRMELY difficult for senior citizens.
While I think you are perfectly justified in your feelings and not at all unreasonable, I honestly think you'd be better served by going to visit them as they request, in the true spirit of Christmas, though under no circumstances should you miss your children's Christmas eve concert. Instead, offer to visit them the following day on Christmas day...when traffic will admittedly be light. There's no harm in that, and you can consider it a Christmas present to your aging parents, who might not be around much longer.
2007-12-20 07:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Vangorn2000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 03:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to rescedule the family christmas celebration for christmas DAY.
That will give the kids their choir day, and the parents their day to host the festivities.
2007-12-20 07:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are being unreasonable.
2007-12-20 07:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Adum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋