I have been wanting to just tear off my wifes clothing and make her scream but her sex drive has all but disappeared over the last year.....Should I just go for it and be agressive or try and ease into it with some foreplay and romance???
I have posted a question regarding this subject awhile back and some of the answers that i got helped out alot....Looking for serious answers and good mature feedback...Happy Hoildays to ALL!!!
2007-12-20 06:56:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
quamquam we both do the house work we both wrangle the kids and since I commute 4hrs each day most of the time she runs the errons to get out of the house
2007-12-21 00:37:53 · update #1
Foreplay & romance for sure. Try making her a nice dinner. Italian food works for me. Make sure to include some wine to help her relax. Then maybe rent a romantic movie. Or put out some old wedding photos. Both are good for romancing a woman. Next maybe give her a back rub. After that she should be more in the mood. Remember - when stressed out, sex is the last thing from a woman's mind. For men it is a stress reliever but women need to be relaxed. Another idea would be a night out dancing and then spend a night at a hotel that has a hot tub in the room. My husband & I sometimes go to Comfort Inn just for the heart shaped hot tub in the room. And as far as foreplay goes, it shouldn't start right before you want to have sex. It should start at the beginning of the day. Tell her how good she looks. Whisper secrets to her. Call her and let her know how much you are missing her while your at work. Let it build up throughout the day. This gives her a chance to think about it and get a little worked up.
2007-12-20 07:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who does the housework? Who wrangles the kids? Who runs the errands?
Women tend to shut down sexually when they're stressed out. My guess is that it's actually biologically hardwired--if you're under a lot of stress, it's a lousy time to get knocked up, so the sex drive shuts off like a switch.
If she feels like she's on a constant treadmill of work-errands-kids-chores-cooking-cleaning-work-errands-kids-chores, and the only time she gets to herself is when she's asleep, it won't be long before she has absolutely no interest in sex. It's just another obligation she's got to get through before she can pass out.
Five, or even fifty, minutes of foreplay will not correct this situation-- it needs a long-term commitment on your part, to do a reasonable amount of the housework (without making her feel guilty about it!) and to guarantee her at least a couple of hours a week of uninterrupted "alone" time--so she can recharge her batteries. This is INFINITELY more romantic than flowers, chocolate, cards, etc., and much more affordable than a trip to the Bahamas. :)
2007-12-20 16:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by quamquamsidere 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since her sex drive is not active, you need to slow into it (although right now you are overloaded). If you just go for it, it will not turn out good. Be romantic and do the things she really like. Buy her something sexy to set the mood. you also mentioned you have asked this a while back. You need to remember that if she has a low drive, she most likely will always be like this. Therefore, from a women's stand point, talk to her and let her know that you want to be very sexual with her. She might think that the sex life between you two is ok.
2007-12-20 15:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by ameri0903 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her sex drive is all ready low and you come on aggressive and macho, chances are you are either going to get nothing, or charged with rape. Not the way to go.
Try to ease into it, but don't expect instantaneous results. Most women take longer than men to get in the mood, especially if its not on her radar at the moment. It may take days or weeks of loving attention, caring conversation, and NO PRESSURE to get her going again.
A visit to a health professional might not be out of the question as there are physical and physiological conditions that can affect sex drive.
2007-12-20 15:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women live on emotions. Try complimenting her more, helping out around the house more, bringing gifts, etc.... Don't pressure her into sex because she may withdraw even more but constantly making her feel good will help ease her into it. Good Luck.
2007-12-20 15:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by QuEEn B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Find out why her libido is gone, it could be stress, age, YOU, but you won't know if you don't ask.
Hope this helps, and P.S. foreplay and romance never hurts, but should be done on a daily basis not just when your horny.
2007-12-20 15:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by walker9842 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suprise her with a romantic dinner a bubble bath with lots of candles you know the works. And just enjoy each other company.
2007-12-20 15:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by PRINCESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
foreplay . you need to make her want you so bad she wants to tear your clothes off. tease her till she cant take it anymore. Maybe get some toys or videos or both.
2007-12-20 15:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by karls dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever comes to mind but if she says no lay off she may have losther sex drive because everything was boring to her so if you put excitement into it she may want to have sex more
2007-12-20 15:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by inloveinTN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay - need I say more?
2007-12-20 14:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋