apperently she was dating some guy and now her so called bessie mate is seeing him, bessie mate has told all her friends to beat my daughter up because she is good looking and nice and she wants to put an end to this. we are wondering should we get some help with this.my daughter said it will only case more trouble for her and to keep out of it,what do you think???? would value opinions here
2007-12-20 06:44:57 · 18 answers · asked by Ang/Mike Limerick Driving School 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Maybe a quiet word to the parents of her x plus the other parents ,it might help..at the very least it would bring the problem to their attention they should know if their kids are intimidating anyone.
If it gets worse then the school and police should be informed.Failing that get someone bigger and brighter to tell this girl to lay off or else. Confronting a bully can sometimes be enough.But whatever you decide to do you must monitor things very closely on a daily basis until it has been resolved. try this link for helpful advice and get your daughter to read it too.
www.bullying.co.uk
Good luck
2007-12-20 07:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by sallysue 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell the school. There should be systems in place to mediate between students with this sort of problem. They will also get bessie mate and your daughter alone to deal with the situation: kids are mostly sheep and if bessie mate stops wanting a fight, the others will too. Failing that, if school has broken up, have a word with the girl's parents.
2007-12-20 06:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by carrie c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15, girls will have other girls jumped over insecurities with boys. She could be seriously hurt. However, they may hurt her if you say something. She should just lay low and stay away from all of them for a while. Things will go back to normal when her bessie mate dumps the bf. And even after that, she should avoid the guy at the very least.
2007-12-20 06:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by MrsCunningham 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, like I told my son, don't take a swing until they swing at you. But if they do swing at you, don't stop swinging until they stop moving. Let them take the first swing as long as you take the last. With that being said can your daughter handle herself in a fight with this other girl. If so, tell her to just ignore them and stay in areas where they can't get her alone and gang up on her. She could also go on the offensive and get this other girl alone and do some bullying of her on. That might scare the other girl off if she knew your daughter would fight back. Most bullys are only scared of one thing, somebody that stands up to them and they only pick on the people they know without a doubt are afraid of them.
2007-12-20 07:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by jj48bv25 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Really terible how school can be. But I never had bully problems, I'm from South Africa and I don't know of any child that actually got bullied. I asume it's the USA school system? Anyways, I'd sugest talking to the principal about it etc. But make sure that the other kids don't know who's mom you are, that will only make things alot worse! Good luck =)
2007-12-20 06:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok i was bullied alot in school in elementary and all the way through highschool the best thing my parents did for me was:
1. try and let me solve it and if i couldnt let them take over by informing the principle and then go from there
2. put her in a self-defense class so if she is put in a situation and no ones around to help she will be able to defend her self plus it also keeps kids active, controls their weight and gives them self confidence but you will have to explain that fighting isnt the only answer and that its only to be used when it has to.
3. if none of this works ask her if she wants to change schools most kids arent thrilled about it but once they change schools sometimes its easier.
4. speak directly to the best friends mother and let her know what her daughter is doing and put an end to it.
i hope that helps it did for me and have a nice day and if you got questions just ask and i will be gladly to answer thanks best of luck
2007-12-20 06:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by jesses_girl926 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would try anything to protect my children so if she thinks your help could make things worse then you must get some alone time with her and either try and figure out the right path between yous both or ar even at least, make sure you know exactly who is doing what and even speak to thier parents. Make sure these bullies know they can't be allowed to do as they like. The school should be contacted if it can't be resolved. MERRY CHRISTMAS.
2007-12-20 06:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you concerned over this and this does not concern you even more
"apperently she was dating "
that at 15 she is "APPARENTLY" dating some "GUY" and you are not even familiar enough with what your daughter is doing to KNOW there is or is not a guy and what they are up to?
Alert the school and sometimes it CAN make things worse.
2007-12-20 06:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I was bullied all through high school. If you are going to do something, you have to be serious about it- talk to the police, etc. My mom tried writing letters to the bus drivers, teachers, talking to the bullies' parents- that all just made it worse.
I would do something, however. She doesn't deserve this, and every time someone gets away with it, it just gives them permission to try again.
2007-12-20 06:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Laceyd5 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Seek professional help.
2007-12-20 06:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋