Is "once a cheat, always a cheat" true? Can there be exceptions to this? Confusion etc?

Question

Ok, maybe I should add to this... I was with a guy, he lived in another country to me. We were together for maybe 8 months and he was due to move to where I am. Then he cheated on me with a girl that he had been with for 2 months about a year ago. He now says he regrets it so much, thinks about me every day and imagines having a family with me and has ended it with her. Prior to me and her, he had 1 major relationship for 6 years and he never once cheated on this girl. He's a really sweet guy and everyone was shocked that he did this to me - not the "player" type at all. I think he is/was confused between me and her, rather than being a serial cheat. What should I do?????

Answer 1

Sure. Any one can slip. But you have to know when the person honestly was seduced or moved in some extraordinary way and when she just took advantage of the situation.
This is a brief guide.
If it is a man in question, 2 times is cheating. Once CAN be the extraordinary situation.
Women are cheats.

Answer 2

I don't believe that at all. I think the only time it's true is with the same two people. If you're with someone who's cheated on you before then, yes, they will probably cheat on you again. However, if that person is with someone else, it doesnt neccesarilly mean that they'll cheat on that person. I think once the line has been crossed in a relationship, it makes it that much easier to do it again. I've cheated on bfs in the past but I wouldn't ever cheat on my bf now. Cheating, a lot of times, isn't just because someone wants to get their jollies off, it generally means theres a problem in the relationship. If you really, really love someone- you wouldn't do that to them.

Answer 3

I a big believer that a person can change, especially when they get to realize (one way or another) what was done was very wrong. I often give people a 2nd chance when they probably do not deserve it. But , when it comes to cheating, in a committed relationship, its one and done.
Time will heal the wounds of the cheating but your mind will not forget and THAT will hurt the relationship forever.
Yes, once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 4

Yes..I used to cheat a ton on even the most minor tests but now I never do. In fact, I think it's incredibly distasteful. You can grow out of it, but people who go through their lives cheating sometimes don't know how to.
EDIT: Lol thought you were talking about school!
Relationship wise: Yes! They always start leaning the other way. They can prevent the worse but they'll always do minor things that could be considered cheating, aka flirting with a stranger pretty heavily.

Answer 5

I think it's true! However, I do believe that people change. So, if he got a new girlfriend and decided that she's the one, he'd totally be faithful. But the whole meaning of once a cheat, always a cheat depends on who he cheated on. If the guy has already cheated on you once, chances are, he'll do it again and again and again. That doesn't mean he'll do it to someone else.

Answer 6

I've cheated a couple times in the past (last time was more than 10 years ago). It's not something I would ever consider doing again as they were huge mistakes. However, I don't regret them, because my mistakes helped make me who I am today and I like that person. If I regretted my mistakes, I'd regret being who I am today. I look at them as lessons I've learned.

Answer 7

It's pretty much true, but there can be exceptions. Some people do cheat (like once or twice), and really do regret it and therefore would probably never do it again. But there are those who will cheat and cheat again, simply because they can!

Answer 8

For some it goes in phases.

For example, they once cheated or they cheat in the future and never do it again.

For others sex is an addiction. They have no consideration other than to swing with others.

So, its all a state of mind. Either the relationship serves you or you have to have the strength to move on if it doesn't serve you.

Answer 9

so far in my 4 year relationship that has been true... to a point. he isnt cheating but he did once before, now he just goes behind my back and talks to girls... makes me feel like he is cheating. some people do change though

Answer 10

I dont think that this is completly true becuase some people learn from their mistakes. On the other hand.....if they cheat AGAIN ( two times) that says that they learned nothing from the first time and will continue to do it. I dont think I could stay with someone who cheated but I dont think that it means they will ALWYAYS cheat~ Best of Luck! :)