I confronted my mother in law about the trash talking and name calling she and her daughters have done to me now and over the years.. I finally stood up for myself and spoke my mind and now they are MAD and NOT speaking to me or my husband and son.. THEY are the ones that called me names. I got tired of it one day.. I took care of father in law while my mother in law was ill in hospital, I did errands for sister in laws.. I was always there when THEY needed me. no ma tter if iw anted to do it or not.. I always knew they was name calling me but I ignored it.. WELL not this last time I confronted them and NOW im the bad guy? They are suppposley.. good christein chuch going people.. why in the world would they trash talk me? I did everythin for them and they treat me like crape. any suggestions of what i can do? we are not speaking at all now?
HELP
2007-12-20 06:37:49 · 13 answers · asked by Rhonda G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunalely people who talk behinds other peoples backs are the ones who also do it to eachother (does that make sense lol). It doenst matter wether they go to church or not (I have met very very gossipy, nasty people there) it them and their lives they arent happy if they are doing that and Id say the sister in law is possibly doing it because she may be insecure that you are getting too close to her Dad and Mum. Ignore it and them and they will come round. Just focus on your life and your family I know it hurts tho.
2007-12-21 22:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of it you have nothing to feel bad about. Where were the daughters when you was taking care of your father in law?. It is a usual case that some mothers in law never think their sons wife is good enough no matter what they do! Sit back and let them stew for a while. If they won't speak to their own grandson and nephew then this explains what good christians they are!.
2007-12-20 06:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frustrating....And i'm sorry for anyone who has to deal with butthead in laws. The sad part is, is that they are taking it out not only on you but their own son and then your son. Thats childish. I know that its really not fair to your son or husband, but let it run its course. They won't be mad forever, and watch, they will butter up as soon as they need you again. But don't do it. You need to stay firm. Until they get it through their self absorbed heads that they can't treat you like that, don't bow to them. Let them figure out how they are going to get through life without using you. Watch, soon enough they will come around, and realize that you aren't as bad as they thought you were. and may start treating you with some respect.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-20 06:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybr it is better if you do nothing at all. As you said, you did nothing. They are mad because you stood up for yourself.
Dont you and your husband feel a sense of peace now that they arent speaking to any of you?
Go about your life and have a good time with your husband and family. Who needs them?
But.....be ready to fogive and forget when they finally do make the first move. They will, you know!
Be happy.
2007-12-20 06:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by bigmac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time and just lay low. They will come around If you run over there and look to kiss some behind they will walk all over you. Worry about your husband and baby. They all need to grow up as a good Christian would not act like that.
2007-12-20 07:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
study and interest the two jointly solid could be very tiring and then looking after the abode. Following suggestion would help. a million. it quite is greater efficient you hire somebody to shield your mom in regulation. 2. You cant exchange your mom in regulation so comply with the area. circulate out often for dates alongside with your hubby and luxuriate in lifestyles. Watch action picture do issues that make you happy. 3 keep your self busy at abode, purely forget approximately approximately bitter words and circulate on, all human beings has top to speech. mom in rules are particular supply her some care, purchase her some dresses, take her out too and notice the version. maximum suitable of success
2016-11-04 03:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you stood up for yourself. Maybe they are "annoyed" with you because you didn't do so in the first place, years ago.
They have to figure out a more respective way to communicate with you now that you have indicated that you want more respect. They are probably embarrassed to a degree.
Give it time and enjoy the break from them, seriously.
2007-12-22 10:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by consideringall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for finally standing up to them.
The biggest hypocrites I have ever run into are churchies.
They regard you as their slave, and now you are on the outs with them because you are not putting up with their guff.
Stay away from them.
Use your caller ID or answering machine to screen calls and don't pick up. If they need help, they will have to talk to your husband directly.
2007-12-20 07:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to get called on their crap, especially adults. Instead of accepting responsibility for their own actions and owning up to it, it is easier to blame you and act like you are crazy. They are still playing games. Hold your ground but don't be afraid to call them and carry on life as usual. You just wanted to get everything out in the open and move forward. If they continue to be childish, then at least you tried.
2007-12-20 07:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let it bother you. You helped them out when they needed you. How do they call themselfs good christian church people, when they are talking about you. Just enjoy your holidays, they will come to you.
2007-12-20 06:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by MM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋