ok im a male, and i know many boys dont want or need kids at this age.
my girlfriend who is 15 also i havn't asked her yet.
but i asked her if she wants to marry with me in future and she said yes so im really happy about that.
but now i want children with her really badly at the moment =\
its werid cos just a year ago i never wanted children maby its just a mood swing i dont know.
but everytime i look at a family in real life or on tv i get really jealloius :( and i want that =\ i dunno how long i should wait
so please help im in bad position :(
i dont want to ask my girlfriend this question because i think it would be too early for her and i dont wanna cause any havok
2007-12-20 06:34:49 · 40 answers · asked by Daniel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow thanks for the help.
im sure i can overcome this desire :(
but its pain
2007-12-20 06:44:00 · update #1
OK...I'm 15 years old and I have something to tell you. After high school, people grow apart, it's just facts. You are too young, and unprepared to have a child. and think about your girlfriend...if a guy asked me that i would dump his *** because i would think it's just because he would want to sleep with me. and how would she finish school?? At 15 you shouldn't even be thinking about sex. you just shouldn't. I know alot of girls who are pregnant, and it changes your life. At our age how the hell are we supposed to know who we're supposed to be with. You may think you love her, but at such a young age you have no idea what love is, and i hate it when teenagers use that word. I just hate it. I think you like the idea that you could marry this girl. Do you really want to be tied down to her for the rest of your life? What happens when you meet someone better? When were this age that's what happens. you find someone better so you dump the one you supposedly "love". All i can say is don't do it. You do not need to start a family. be a teenager, have fun, and don't be stupid and let hormones take over your body.
2007-12-20 06:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mindy Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, this is too weird! I mean, u watch kids on the telly, it seems great and stuff, but it really isn't like that! U have to be really mature before having a baby! I mean, it's huge!! U've got to finish school, find a job, settle down, marry etc... Just cuz ur girl told u yes, it doesn't mean she's gonna marry u now, nor tomorrow... It seems like a fantastic thing now, but it really needs lots of responsibility!... What kind of life do u think u can offer to a baby now that u're 15?!
Believe me, I'm 15 myself and when I watch the telly or sth. like that, and see those beautiful families in the pasta's ads, it's really cool... It just seems great to have that sweet creature and play with him, give him love... I mean it... But, once u realise how much it takes to be a parent, no, thank u!...
U don't deserve to break ur teen ages and have a baby just like that, and on the other hand a baby just CAN'T have a 15 year old parent... A baby needs much more than what u can offer him now. But I'm sure that it'll be a really lucky baby if u waited for the right time to come, when u're sure u can offer him a future.
Hope this helps to clear up ur thoughts...
Have a good day. :)
2007-12-20 06:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird to be thinking about kids, but that doesn't mean you should. It's normal to want a family and that is a goal that you can set for yourself, but you should plan on how you're going to support this family. I would start by finishing school, maybe college, get a good job, then marriage and you're on your way to having a family. Those mood swings you're referring to are probably your hormones. It's very important to differentiate between wanting a family and just wanting to have sex. As for the girlfriend, I would keep wanting to start a family to yourself. Talk like that tends to scare the significant other off, whether a boy or a girl.
2007-12-20 06:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by superhotdude8889 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definitly way too early. Im 17 now, without any boyfriend, so much as getting married! what you see is not always what you should believe. There A LOT of things do for the child, from beginning to end of their lifetimes. It takes a LOT OF sacrificing and planning. Its not just sexual intercourse then a baby. ITS NOT THAT EASY. It may sound fun and exciting at first, but after, youve got to be prepared. So please wait until you are older. 15 is just way too young. Just stick to what you have now and eventually before you know you will reach the stage to have kids. Really, times goes fast!
2007-12-20 06:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please do not have a baby right now. I thought I wanted kids when I was 15, and now at 30, I can not be happier that I don't have any. I don't have the money or patience to deal with a child now, none-the-less 15 years ago. I have a friend that did have a child at 15, and I feel so bad for her daughter. Her mother missed out on so much growing up, that she isn't the responsible parent she needs to be, and the person getting hurt is her wonderful daughter.
A child needs two parents who are loving, mature, educated and responsible to help them grow up to be healthy and happy adults. Life is not easy as it is. Don't compound the problem for yourself by adding a child to it, and certainly don't force a child to have a harder life than necessary by bringing it into this world too soon.
You have plenty of time...WAIT!
2007-12-20 06:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by HollyPena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not werid It is wrong! Having a baby is hard work 24/7 and a lot of money. I love my kids but I was 20 with my first and 35 for my scond I don't think I could ever of handel it if I was 15. Omg I was having the time of my life at 15,16,17 you get it.Please just think before you do.
2007-12-20 06:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by mary ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! ok skipper first off calm down grab a glass of milk and have some cookies ok...your way too young live your life first..and omg! your just 15 boy there are going to be plenty of girls that tell you that they wanna marry you as you go on in life... but dont make a mistake just because you have feelings for her. make sure you marry someone and decide that decision when you understand the meaning of love. love doesnt come from jealousy or from watching tv. maybe your just in a need of having family time. and yeah if your girl is smart she would say no hey we are still way to young... you never know whats going to happen you guys could break up tommorow for all you know hell it could happen right now! things happen in life and trying to have a kid to get something that you want from a life that isnt in the same category of your needs is wrong and very very an unwise decision( and believe me i know your sitting there saying what do i know ) well im breaking it to you im 18 going to be 19 in a month and im 6 1/2 months pregnant and even tho i love my man soo much i wish i would have waited. you still have your whole life ahead of you believe me you will tell alot of girls in your life that you love and want to marry them before you actually meet the right one and settle down with.
2007-12-20 06:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it obviously seems you too have a good relationship which is good. I wouldn't think of children right now, worry about getting an education and all that first but once you've got that taken care of, you could surely look into having children in the future. Right now it's a bit young to be worrying about that but there's nothing wrong with thinking further into the future, I'm sure we've all had thoughts about our future and what decisions we will make. Hope that helps :)
2007-12-20 06:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by fantasygurluver 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i were you just keep it to yourself first,your just asking for trouble,having a kid is very easy to do but raising them take a lot of hardwork,you have to ask yourself first if you can support yourself and the mother of your kid without parents help?and are you willing to stay at home to take care of your kid instead of going out with friends?,and will you be willing to stay besides a new born baby with less sleep at night to help the kids mom?if you answer 1 of those questions with a no then your not ready yet,whats the rush?your time will come stay in school study hard,finish school get a job then ask your gf to marry her then have a kid and live happily ever after
2007-12-20 06:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put that thought out of your head - NOW! Do anything you can to distract yourself. You have no means to support yourself and your girlfriend and you are still in school. What is your plan to support a baby? They are very expensive and very needy; this is not the right time in your life. Enjoy school and your girfriend; kids will come. You are going to be a good dad if you like kids at your age. Most teens are too self absorbed to like kids.
2007-12-20 06:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋