So how do I do that?
Why does everyone say to move on and be successful and that is the sweetest revenge? To me, that seems like an opportunity for him to stop thinking about what he did.
He lied and is still lying and thought I broke up with him, he really really really hurt me. I NEVER want him to forget what he lost and how he screwed up.
how do I make him live in misery? He deserves it.
2007-12-20 06:28:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at how much of your life youre wasting to get back at him. Not trying to be a b**ch, i've just been there. It's such a waste of your time and energy to be so angry at him. Just be thatnkful if hes that bad a person that hes no longer your problem. I believe in Karma, he'll get his 3 times as bad!!
2007-12-20 06:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by ljstrimple 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a really difficult situation to be in and even harder to want that! First off you do not know what he feels because he just might not be showing it. It may look on the outside like all is well with him (and maybe it is) but you do not know what he is feeling inside.
I have been where you are and it sucks so bad to see him so ok while you are so NOT ok! Problem is .. you can not make him feel something you know. If he is going to miss you he is going to and if he is not going to miss you ... nothing you do will change that!!! Best thing you can do honestly is to show you don't care and that you are moving on ... regardless if it is true or not!!
I know ... I have been there ... and the second I let my pride take over and did not show I was sad or hurt anymore ... he noticed!!
People tell you to move on because it is not healthy for you to think like this. Fact of the matter is you are a good person and he will either see it or not. It may take him years but eventually he will regret what he did to you .. and it usually is not until someone does it to him!!!
Keep your head up and remind yourself that YOU are not the one losing here ... he is. He is just too stupid to know it right now!
2007-12-20 14:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't make anyone do anything. That is the beauty of free-will. You want him to hurt because you love him and you want him to feel what you are feeling, because if he did it would also mean he loves you.
If he truly loves you he will hurt and he will suffer. If he doesn't he will move on to the next, but keep in mind that what goes around comes around, so his misery may be felt through another relationship.
What you need to do is concentrate on you. Take care of yourself and work on making you happy and moving on with your life. Things will fall into place one way or the other. Time is the only true healer and eventually the pain will subside and you won't hurt so bad anymore.
I truly wish you the best. I am so sorry that you are so upset at Christmas time. Everyone deserves to be happy and you will be, soon :)
Good Luck, Merry Christmas, and God Bless!!!
2007-12-20 14:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not exactly a solution, is just a fake exit to a problem and you will be in square 1 again and probable keep trying revenge and only him will know if he cares or not because he seems to be confident and a lot more than you.
Best advice, consider you have made a mistake with the person you choose, recognize it was your fault with the one you choose and with who you have been spending your time with, accept it was a mistake, and like him there are many, like people that doesn't say the truth I mean, that you just choose one of the many that lies, that it wasn't his fault, it was yours.
When you understand what happens in your life it was your choice and fault, and it has nothing to do with him, that's when you have become mature and you are over that relationship.
That's on where I would focus, instead of try to make one of the many feel misserable. There are people like you looking for revenge towards those "one of the many liars", some wont look for revenge and will say "how stupid I was", the other ones "I want revenge!".
The ones who are saying "how stupid I was" most likely will be happy in the short term with strong fundamentals.
The ones who are saying "I want revenge" will be just doing lopps in circle and if they didn't learn that lesson most likely will come another one of the "one of the many" to their life, and will be forever in that stage until they learn.
Choose wisely.
2007-12-20 14:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey now! What kind of messed up mentality is that? Oh, right ... the hurt woman kind. I remember now! *smiles* We've all been there, honey!
"Everyone" is RIGHT! The more completely you ignore him and move on, and be happy ... the sweeter the revenge. Seriously! Prove to him that you don't need him ... that you're better off without him, even!
But ... and this is the important part ... you CANNOT "rub it in his face" directly. No contact. Zip! Zilch!! He's gotta see it for himself.
Good luck, sweetie!
P.S. He is a SoB and you can do sooooo much better than a liar!
P.S.S Sometimes this process can take years ... which makes the satisfaction THAT MUCH SWEETER ... this just happened when a close friend of mine started dating on old high school boyfriend ... oh he was so pissed when he saw me in all my happiness and success!
P.P.S.S. yes, it's true! Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! *winks at all the women out there*
2007-12-20 14:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Faye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why most people claim that the sweetest revenge against those you loved in the past that have hurt you would be to move on is simply because, as time goes on, the people that hurt us most are PRECISELY the same people that will make their way into our lives later on in life. Despite the fact that they may have cheated on you, lied to you, or did things unimaginable at the time, I can almost guarantee you that in the future this guy will show his face again, attempt to reconcile for his errors in the past, and attempt to get back together with you once more. He knew that you loved him passionately, and you would do so much to make him happy-therefore, he'll automatically assume that you'd be willing to forgive him for his errors sometime in the future and get that same undivided attention and love that you gave to him in the past (afterall, there's no better feeling than knowing that somebody loves you and would do anything to be with you). However, if you have already moved on, perhaps found a new boyfriend or simply don't have a single emotion towards him anymore, it's going to hurt HIM because he'll evidently realize that the one person who cared for him the most (you) doesn't have a single spark of emotion for him anymore.
Eventually, this guy will realize what kind of error he made in the past. Some of us take more time than others to gain the experience and knowledge necessary to understand love, and what it means when we lose it. He may be basking in his grandiose, self-absorbed arrogance right now, but eventually it's going to hit him just how important you were to him in his life. Without you, there is no longer the truest and most sincere form of love possible. One day when he's at a low and there isn't a single other human being that could console him as you could, he's going to turn to you for love-and you won't care. And that will make him feel miserable.
Tim
2007-12-20 14:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tim G 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if you are going to play judge, jury, and exectutioner, you are in for a very miserable life. What did he do that he deserves unending suffering? I'm guessing you are young so maybe you don't realize that you are going to go through a few relationships before you find the right one. No matter what he did, if he is that bad just get over it and him. While you are stressing out, who do you think is being hurt by it? I'll give you a clue...it's not him.
2007-12-20 14:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that women that did everything you can to make the relationship work it self out, and knowing that u was a good woem, don't worry about it, he will be misery for what he done to you.
2007-12-20 14:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Let it go, young lady. What goes around, comes around."
"It's a heck of a lot easier for a man with money to burn, to
bribe the evil men that would willfully do much more harm to a
woman (such as yourself), than it is for a lady like you, (no
matter how much money you have to play with), to even get
on a confident gentleman's last nerve."
2007-12-20 14:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him live in misery? He left you to get away from the misery. He's already forgotten all about you.
2007-12-20 14:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋