My mom has this bf... he is 10 years younger than her and he fell for her a long time ago... she spends like every night with him and everyday he comes over to give her coffee and doughnuts after i leave for school... we live with my grandparents and she sneaks him in the back everday... he had a 12 year old daughter who hates him and acts like my mom is her mom... I've told her how i felt about him but she wont do anything about it!! what the hell am i supposed to do... am i just supposed to live with it and bottle up my energy and emotions???
2007-12-20 06:24:10 · 25 answers · asked by Mal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel so sorry for you.its a bad situation to be in i know,but you do really need to have a nice quite chat with your mum and tell her how you feel.i know you want your mum to be happy but if your unhappy because he is always there,then in sure your mum will understand babe.Has this been going on a long time? or have they only recently started dating?plus have you talked to your grand parents about it,maybe they could help alittle by confronting your mum about it all.coz lets face it YOU should be number 1 priority in your mums life.i hope every thing works out for you,i really do. remember your only wanting to compromise with your mum,its not like your asking alot so keep smiling and try not let it upset you too much.x x
2007-12-20 06:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by collie wobbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your misfortune on this. Maybe your mom is just going through a mid life thing. I dont know how long they have been dating, but having to be sneaky about it is bound to wear down the relationship. He sounds kinda nice, but then again I dont know him. I would tell your mom that she needs to make some time for you as well, and then attempt to accept the fact that she has a BF. You should also look inside of yourself and see if the problem is just jealousy of a new guy, the daughter, or just not having your mom to yourself. Maybe talk to your grandparents about it in a sort of round about way, so as to not get your mom in trouble. Good luck
2007-12-20 14:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by totalfun1562 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way...
Do you let your mom tell you who you can and can't date? I have a feeling you don't. Don't expect her to abide by YOUR decisions as to whom she can and can not date!
In all likelihood, since you sound like you're mid to late teens, it is only a few years until you can move out on your own. Tolerate it until then. Who knows...if you actually come to know him as more than the guy taking Dad's place, you may actually start to like him!
One thing to remember...your happiness is importaint to your Mom, but your choices should NOT prevent her from being happy. Now if the guy is groping YOU whenever he has a chance...THAT is different, and you can flat-out tell not only your mom, but gran and gramps, AND the cops! However, if he isn't don't be a (insert word meaning "female dog") and start screaming it! If you have to, and she decides to move in with him before you graduate, ask if you can continue to live with the grandparents until you graduate, then become an independant woman and make your own way!
2007-12-20 14:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he's ten years younger than her? Go mom.
It's her choice. How long has she been seeing him. If it's been a LONG time, then maybe she isn't interested in him long term, maybe she just wants him around for other reasons.
You could always ask at the dinner table with your grandparents there when she's going to stop sneaking him in the house and move in with him. If you REALLY don't like him that much, just say you'd rather her move in with him and leave you there with your grandparents.
2007-12-20 14:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by daeraelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to your mom about? If you have try again but calmly tell her that you feel uncomfortable with the way she is acting and that you would really like it if she would not sneak around the house with the guy. Try to spend more time with her. Also try to spend time with his daughter. get to know her better and see why she hates him so much. This might take a little time so be prepared to wait. and if your mom is still acting childish just keep talking to her, but i would advise you not to pester her all the time about. Sometimes she needs space so just wait for a little after you tell her the first time.
2007-12-20 14:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to live with it you can play as your mom is your sister and tell your grandparents that your mom is bringing him thur the back door when they are not looking but one day your mom will get tired of him because he is younger and younger men tend to act little boys and your mom will feel like she has another kid and let him go so just give it time and you will see. the only thing you can do is act like you care for your mom and if she choose him over you then you have problems but i daubt that will ever happen. so just like i said just give it time.
2007-12-20 14:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by ga_el_mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to somebody about how you feel...can you talk to one of your grandparents? or your dad? or maybe even a friend or friends parent you trust. You shouldnt have to keep things bottled up inside you and im sorry your mom didnt understand your feelings. i can understand how weird it must feel to know your mom has a boyfriend and one that is younger than her. also, you could try talking to your mom again and explaining what its like from your side and that you miss her. good luck
2007-12-20 14:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cori M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is the other way around. Kind of. Ummmm You should try and get her away from him for a while..... (a vacation for just you and your mom).... Then tell her, were gonna have fun that means no talking with him..... If will be easier to express your feelings that way, it gives her more of an eye opener. if you feel That you gonna burst talk to someone (your grandparents might work)...... Because when you bottle up your emotions and thoughts it just gets you to retaeate.......(ex. i pierced by belly button with out telling anyone, and my mom thretened to disown me)...
so say somthing, and if she dosent listen keep saying it till she does.
2007-12-20 14:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're mom lives with her parents and has to sneak her boyfriend into the house? I think I outgrew that phase in the 6th grade. Someone needs to grow up.
2007-12-20 14:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Chicken_Wing__ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell You Mom How U Feel
2007-12-20 14:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by Christine W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋