How do you get higher self-esteem?

Question

i am in shape so that is not something that will help mee

Answer 1

there are a few ways...here are a few links to better help you

http://walkindryplaces.com/Self-Esteem.htm

http://www.thepropheticyears.com/comments/I%20Need%20More%20Self-Esteem%20-%20You%20Need%20More%20Self-Esteem%20-%20We%20All%20Need%20More%20Self_Esteem.htm

http://www.kidnetic.com/BrightPapers/?c=Feelings&p=67

http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/self_esteem.html

http://www.coping.org/growth/esteem.htm

Answer 2

Tay,
It is a very generic question, I will try to answer. Please consider:
1. Know what you are or who are. Know what are your capabilities or what your shortcomings are.
2. Feel good about whatever you are and whatever you do, irrespective of whatever others say.
You may have certain shortcomings, we all have, but beyond that think how good you are.
You may do something not so perfectly, but, try to find whatever good possible in what you do.
3. Try to overcome your shortcomings.
4. Put an extra effort in areas where you think you could improve.
5. Present yourself well, a well dressed person automatically feels good about her.
6. Smile at others, you will get many smiles back.
7. Pick up conversations (you need not give all your private information or information that might affect your safety) with the staff of libraries, restaurants, bookshops etc you frequent. You will soon be a popular person.
8. Be nice to people who are lesser qualified or lesser privileged than you.
9. Do something you like.
10. Hum a tune, sing a song, when you feel you are low.
11. In all difficult situations, keep your cool, dont panic. Understand the issues involved clearly, but, try to avoid the feeling of helplessness.
And, believe me, I think you are wonderful.
Take care.. All the best..
Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year..

Answer 3

Tough question. The first step is to not do things that lower your self esteem: Things that you will regret later, things that make you feel bad later or that make you feel like you “gave in” to peer pressure or boy friend pressure. Learn to be your own person and make your own decisions. That will build your self esteem. And an easy one, don’t hang out with people that drag you down; don’t hang out with those that also have bad self esteem. We tend to adopt the standards and “coloring” of those we hang with. It’s harsh, but cut off relationships with people that are less than what you want to be.

Answer 4

Read John Bradshaw on family. RECLAIMING THE INNER CHILD. You have low self esteem thanks to your parents. You need to go back to your child hood and see how your family treated you and and how they reacted to your behaviour.
My parents used to tell me when I was little, that if someone doesn't want to play with me, there must be something wrong with me. How is that for self esteem LOL. I read allot of books, confronted my parents, and looked at myself without taking other's opinions in to consideration. It's a long process, but it will make you happier and will truly influence how you let people treat you.

I wish you well!

Answer 5

Love yourselfd more, love your body, mind and soul and don't let anything change that. Especially when someone is trying to make you feel bad just don't worry because words or just words. Just say whatever and move on. But foremost believe in yourself

Answer 6

think sexy, you dont have to be a supermodel to be have a higher self-esteem, you think some of those people are happy with themselves, i think not. i use to have a friend who was a model. she wasnt even happy with herself. and she was hot. she had to watch what she ate. and it stress her out. kinda stupid. to feel sexy and think sexy...feel good and eat right. be part of something you like to do. meet new people. or whatever. dont think negative things. be happy. youll be to the point where you are satisfied about you. i believe you can reach that. make that your new year's resolution...yeah baby.lol

Answer 7

Believing in yourself. The sooner you stop concerning yourself with how other view you, the sooner you'll see your confidence growing.

I was picked on a lot in middle and high school. It hurt but the whole time, I knew there was nothing wrong with me. So other kids may have been able to hurt my feelings, but they could never touch my confidence.

Answer 8

Believe in yourself. Push negative thoughts as far away from your mind as possible. Smile and most important learn to love yourself (if you dont love yourself it shows to all around you) so how can they find you appealing?? when you dont!!
The very best to you

Answer 9

total mind/ body makeover, change what you don't like, the things that keep you down, then u wont be able to dwell on them and you will have real self-esteem.

Answer 10

workout and get in shape...thats one way...youll feel proud of your body and have higher self esteem....get new clothes and that will make you feel a bit better about how you look and give more self esteem...try those two out...they work....

Answer 11

you just have to think to yourself that what others think about you doesnt mater think about this quote.

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do."
Olin Miller