ok so i have been dating my guy for two years now, we dont get along the way we used too, he treats me badly and gets mad if i ask him any questions about our relationship or wanna talk about anything relating to fights, changes, anything dealing with the relationship. he doesn't trust me going out with my girlfriends, who i dont even see much to begin with. he told me he will never trust me when i go out with them. and this is bc i lied to him a couple times about hanging out with my girls, he doesnt like me hanging out with other guys he doesn't know, he wouldn't let me go hang with my girl at her brothers house. he puts me down, is immature and childish when it comes to my chest. he is selfish.
now....my other friend, well both of our friends, lives in nj. he knows i deserve better and he said if i were with him he would treat me the way i deserve and would do anything for me. he has always been there for me when i get in fights with my guy. he doesn't like the fact that
2007-12-20 05:44:28 · 54 answers · asked by million$? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i put up with all i do, and frankly neither do i. but i have soo much love for my boyfriend and i would be lost without him. however i dont feel bad for the way my friend and i have been talking to each other, using names like babe and hun. we've had some pretty racy discussions lol, and yet i still dont feel bad. i find myself thinking about my secret lover (lol) more and more each day. when my guy and i have been having sex, i've fantasized about my other man and when things go wrong with my guy when we are hanging i think about my friend and everything just goes away. i haven't had physical relations yet but i really really want too. i still dont feel bad even typing all this. what to do?!?!?!!? incite please.
2007-12-20 05:48:48 · update #1
i don't even have to read anything beyond your 1st sentence. DUMP HIM what is the point in cheating?
2007-12-20 05:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation you are in but the thing is that I am the other guy. My female friend and I talk all the time when she is at work or whenever she gets a chance to leave the house since she live with him. If you are going to cheat on your bf then end it and give it a try with the other guy. You deserve to be happy and treated the way a women should be treated. All I can say is follow your gut instinct and don't regret anything you do. I hope everything turns out the way that you want it to. GOOD LUCK
2007-12-20 05:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why spend time with someone who neither trusts you nor treats you with respect when you want to talk about the relationship?
It doesn't sound like he's particularly satisfied with the relationship, either. Don't cheat before you break up. It's humiliating to the partner that was faithful.
Going your separate ways before things get ugly will be better for both of you. Make the break clean and absolute. No "let's be friends and hang out and talk on the phone" because that will become a means of controlling you.
2007-12-20 05:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should cheat but i think you should leave the relationship. It seems to me that once a guy gets mad or doesn't trust you when you go out its probably because he is doing something that he doesn't want you to do. Don't cheat because it makes you no better than him. I know its been two years but probably two years too long. Sometimes people are there for a specific time period in your life but now its not the right time for you guys especially if he is not willing to or wanting to work on the relationship. Open communication is the key to a good honest and last relationship. If you decide to not be with your guy don't just go right into another one. Its not fair to you or to the other guy.
2007-12-20 05:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by MellyG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! Dont' cheat, if you are not happy in the relationship that you are in then you need to break up. If you think that you are going to be happy with this other guy then break up with your current bf and go out with this other guy. Your bf now so childish, selfish and really immature. He needs to trust you more. He has already shown that he is possessive and you don't need a guy like that. You deserve better. Think of this way he has given you two years of this. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a jealous guy? If your answer is no then you know what to do. Because it is only going to get worse and like I said you deserve way better than what he is giving you.
2007-12-20 05:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Laughing with you not at you 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on him. Just end this toxic relationship. Your boyfriend is obviously immature and insecure. Those types usually are cheating on their girlfriends anyway in an attempt to bolster their self esteem, so drop the guy ASAP and move on with your life.
It'll be better for you and maybe even for the boyfriend. If he's honest with himself, he'll learn something from the experience of being dumped.
But DO NOT sneak around behind his back. That's asking for trouble for ALL parties involved. Good luck! Be strong.
2007-12-20 05:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by larry S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your man cheated on you...so he thinks you'll cheat on him too. Your guys sounds really insecure about your relationship, and probably doesn't want to discuss it because actual feelings aren't manly. And your friend....he's just being a friend. That doesn't mean that he's into you. He just knows you deserve better, and him being a nice guy, wouldn't treat you, or any girl in the manner in which you're being treated. You shoud NEVER cheat. That won't make your guy understand you, or treat you better. It'll just drive you two further apart, and make your situation worse. OR he'll just break up with you, and beat the crap outta his friend...for sleeping with you, knowing that you were taken. Just break up with your bf. Then you can freely go out with your friend.
2007-12-20 05:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k., get rid of your bf. he sounds controlling, and be lucky he didnt get physical with you yet (that we know of). If you aren't happy, than leave. It's like Dane Cook says, why hang around for 5 more years and end things violently (lol, i love dane). It sounds like he treats you like ****, and if he cant trust you, there is something wrong there, because what is a relationship without trust? Its the whole basis for a relationship and the lack thereof is wrong. So just break up with your bf, and get with the other guy.
Plus, what if you do cheat, fall for the new guy and break up with your bf for him, now this other guy will have to be thinking, well she cheated on him for me, whats to say she wont cheat on me for someone else.
2007-12-20 05:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by prestmitsujoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you definitly deserve better...i was in a realationship like that for years and believe me it wears you down after a while...its unhealthy...so you need to get out of it...at this point it doesnt look like it will get any better.....but you have to be careful bc you have this other guy telling you all the things you really want to hear right now...the things your b/f isnt telling you...you're vulnerable...not saying that this guy doesnt mean what he is saying but trust me when i say that if and when you break up with this guy...take some time for yourself...be with your friends hangout and have fun being single...dont rush into anything....if you and this other guy are meant to be together it will be and if he really is the way he says he is.....he will understand that you just want to take your time...enjoy your new single life for a little while....
2007-12-20 05:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent heard the other side of the story, but i feel that you wanna find someone new. and i think that since you always talk negative about him. then i think you should dump him. he might be selfish cause all he wants is you, i feel that he might be a very controlling man. but hey, if you aint happy then leave. why do you need to cheat, when you can be single and mingle. it will not good in your reputation if you was with someone and be f*cking someone else. i would think you're a whore. i advice you to just move on if youre thinking of cheating on him. maybe you are selfish too. you both dont deserve each other. be happy
2007-12-20 05:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Junior V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO... STOP!!!!!! ur such a hypocrite... this is what u sound like "oh no... what should i do... i don't like him the same way.. but i would be lost without him oh no... i love him... i love so much... should i cheat on him? i'll be lost without him..." other people r right... the other guy is prob just tell u what u want to hear... if u think u still love him they stay... if u don't leave... but don't run off with the other guy... he would prob say anything u want hear.. AND don't u dare cheat on him... that would only make u look like a ***** come on.... u don't want to come out lookin like the bad 1 here...... UR BEIN SELFISH...... ur not bein fair to him... did u ever think bout tellin him how u feel..... and if he doesn't listen tell him to.... tell him if he dosen't try u'll leave and that is that
DON'T U DARE CHEAT
2007-12-20 06:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋