Im a girl who cannot understand this guy I met recently in my job. We've often flirted before and had a connection..he even told me he was falling for me one day when we chatted, he seems really normal, has lots of friend..then one day you know kisses etc but not sex (he tried, but Im the type that waits a bit) . Seems like the usual start of something but he cancelled an invite he had given me for the next day!! I contacted him by & we chatted & I suggested we meet up. He got back to a few days later & its too late as I had left to go back home (live in a diff city to him). then he contacted me on and off but we never talk about our feelings, still we get on great. now he is calling me to say he will fly to see me on his next vacn and I hear feelings in his voice. WHAT'S GOING ON IN THIS MAN'S HEAD? Is he a bit unstable? It seems strange to me. We have mutual friends and they really like him. Did he feel rejected when I didnt move as quickly as him physically?
2007-12-20 05:28:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I dated this guy too lol... seriously, it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. It also kind of sounds like all he wanted was sex... so he's sending some mixed messages here indicating he really is just as confused as you are... steer clear until he can tell you what the deal is.
2007-12-20 05:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're living far from each other and do most of your communication on the phone or online. Since you two have not established a relationship, I would say that it's safe to assume that he has other prospects he's looking at. Depending on how well things go with these other girls affects how he acts toward you. He probably sees it as not cruel, but as practical.
And yeah, sex does seem to have something to do with it. It might be something that's important to him, a way of him knowing whether you two are compatible or not. I would say that at the moment, he's interested, but not THAT into you. This one might need some time, but don't take his compliments too seriously right now, you know?
2007-12-20 05:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by PokerFaced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're reading wayy too much into all this. The relationship is just starting, and things don't always go smoothly and predictably. Stop trying to decipher everything and just let it happen. You'll know soon enough whether or not he's interested, or weird or not interested etc. without having to ask a bunch of strangers over the internet.
2007-12-20 05:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Did he feel rejected when I didnt move as quickly as him physically?"
I'd say you've answered your question right there.
Us guys aren't known for being rational, look at our bloody track record. He had an idea in his head of how things were going to progress, and you put a cork in it. I'm not saying it's your fault, just that your response to his sexual advance threw him through a loop, causing him to back off emotionally as well as physically.
I'd say, if you're going to give it another shot, plan to go all the way, or let him know you're not going to beforehand.
2007-12-20 05:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Oderry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume he's as scared of being committed as you are. Neither one of you is willing to say you want more yet, but it seems like it's taking its own course now. Make sure when the beans get spilled you tell him what your dreams are. And I hope the sex blows your mind.
2007-12-20 05:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be easy guys don't like that
it's good thing you didn't kiss him
if he came easy though, he may come easy to other girls as well
maybe you should investigate on his history by finding out who his friends are
and exes
then you'll have a better idea
2007-12-20 05:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hear feelings in his voice. I think that sums it all up.... Whats going on in your head?
2007-12-20 05:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋