I like this guy who juss recently got dumped by his gf of 6 years relationship. Although he showed interest in me but it seems he likes his ex gf more and they still talk on the phone and see each other.....he claim that there is nothing between them but why do they still keep in touch? Should i still pursue with this relationship or forget about him? Should i let him take me as a rebound?
2007-12-20 04:58:02 · 21 answers · asked by kk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to give him a lot of time to get through this. You say it was a recent dump? And that he was with her for 6 years? Believe me, it will take a long time before they get out of each others systems, that is if they do. Couples that have been together for so long, sometimes get back to gether once or twice before it actually ends. Don't be a rebound. You know that if you are a rebound, after he is done going through what he is going through, he will be done with you too, because he will need a clean start at that point and you will be everything that reminds him of this whole breakup time. Be careful!
2007-12-20 05:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda on the opposite side of this problem. I just broke up with a guy who I really loved and there is someone who I met not too long ago. Me and my ex still talk and have fun together but there is a problem. I kinda like this new person who came into my life. We just started going out and he doesn't like that I see my ex at all. Its just hard to remove a huge piece of my life and move on so quickly. If you think you two have a chance at all.. then why don't you ask him politely if he can stop seeing her so much and hang out with you more. Or even find out if he wants a relationship this early after a break up... its hard to go right into a relationship like that.. Rebounds don't always end up bad, remember that...
2007-12-20 13:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mitzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how good or bad his relationship was, 6 years is a long time. It's going to take him quite a while to sort out his *own* life apart from the life he had with his ex. He might hate her guts, but feel powerless not to talk to her. If you really like him, then take it slow slow slow and just be his friend. This is probably one of the darkest times in his life right now.
If all you want is sex in a short-term relationship, then offer to be his rebound, but it's not going to go anywhere. All you will be to him is the antithesis of his ex.
2007-12-20 13:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one ever likes to be the rebound. Give him an ultimatum, if he's going to be with you, then dump the ex and move on with you. If he can't lose her than you would be better off with out him. Think about it, while dating, it's only going to become a problem if he continues to talk to her.
2007-12-20 13:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by dala_o_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be. Why would you WANT to be his rebound? If he wants to be with you, let him make that decision when he hasn't just left a 6 year relationship - that's a huge change in his life.
2007-12-20 13:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten Toes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks being the rebound, they still have feelings for the person that they were with before. There's no way to not. You just don't wake up one day and totally have no feelings for a person. Maybe his way of coping is to still talk to her. You might try just being there for him, someone for him to talk to. Then when he is healed see where it goes from there.
2007-12-20 13:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends, what you want. If your looking for a guy to bang. Yes. It's obvious he doesn't like you that much. He might want to keep you on the side for sort of a back up.
2007-12-20 13:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel something is going on between them you should find a different person because if you have a bf you don't want to have to worry if he is seeing other people or doing things that your not comfortable with personally i would find another man
im sure theres aright guy out there for you
2007-12-20 13:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by catherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the decision is yours, and you need to take full responsibility with this one.
If you want to be used as a weapon for someone elses hole in the gut its up to you.
Yopu sound honest, and I would say ther right answer lies within your heart.
I could say you are worth more
2007-12-20 13:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gf is not ready to let go, and he's playing her game... loss him, or you're the rebound chick...
2007-12-20 13:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by mystic60foryou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋