when i heard it from him i scolded him and was v angry he promised not to use it but forgets it the moment he`s with his friends and uses it in public.
2007-12-20 04:32:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my son picked up some potty mouth at school. i told him we didn't talk that way in our family because it's rude. there's so much of it going on at school that he'd still sometimes slip and say something (i knew it wasn't with forethought, because he'd right away apologize). we put 14 pennies in a jar and said we'd postpone our annual family ski trip until all the pennies were gone. we took out a penny every day there was no bad language, and said we'd add one in every time there was. we never had to add one. it took exactly 14 days to get rid of those pennies, the habit is broken, and there hasn't been any more potty talk....
2007-12-20 04:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by ... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him best you can. When you say things or people make a big deal out of it, kids tend to do it even more. People will laugh when they have a 3 or 4 year old who uses a bad word, they think its funy, so the kids do it more since they think it was okay. But depending on how often it is and where it is, ignore him. You don't want to fuel his fire. If it's in public a lot, I'd talk to him. Ask him where he learned those words, and why he's using them? If it gets out of hand since you've already scoled him for this, punish him, take away privliages if you have to. Just remember the more you try to stop him, the more he may try to push buttons and use the words.
2007-12-20 12:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a not unusual problem with young children.
Try to avoid getting angry with him over this, since this gives the bad words more power. Then when he's mad at you, he'll use them on you!
One mother I know told her 4-year-old that we only use those words where we hear them: i.e. around the people that say them. This worked for her because her husband used some language in the garage with his buddies, that he never used in the house with his wife.
It's probably more effective to say something like, "when you use that word, people think you're not nice, so if you want people to think you are nice it's better not to." Or, "I'd rather you don't say that in public, because other people will hear it."
This will start him thinking, and it won't make the words more exciting. Using a long sentence to express yourself will tend to increase thinking and cut down on impulsiveness.
He's only 4, so you can't expect him to remember all the time.
[My cousin was a teacher in a one-room schoolhouse. She brough her 4-year-old to school with her. One day she was teaching about words that rhyme, and they were working on words that end in -uck: truck, suck, luck, buck,...her son was waving his hand wildly, wanting to contribute, and she was afraid he would repeat the word he had learned from some workmen. At last she felt she had to call on him, and he gave his word: "dandelion."]
Keep your sense of humor.
2007-12-20 14:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children at this age do such things as they dint no what is right or wrong so the better option is to make child understand between right or wrong..... scolding or lock the child wont help as this may go against you...may be in future he wont trust u or hesitate to talk to u.....so just find out the source and make him understand with love and politeness,hope this will work for u as it has work for my brother.....best of luck!!!!!!
2007-12-20 13:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lock your son for an hour or two in his room whenever he uses such words.That way he would remember his lesson. But do reward him after a week or so if he is able to take control of his tongue.
2007-12-20 12:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Innocent Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him when he says bad words, tell him that its naughty and you are not going to talk to a little boy who says naughty words and ignore him untill he says sorry, tuff love but sometimes only way. As he is 4 he should no that when he is bad saying sorry is the way out of it so try that i hope i helped
2007-12-20 13:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by sally c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out where it's coming from and eliminate the source. can it be your husband a friend of the family, or his friends at school. If it is from school, take him out and put him in a decent school enviornment. good luck:)
2007-12-20 12:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by meira198 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably where he heard it; his friends...try talking to his friends' partentsw and ask them if they notice their sons saying bad things.
2007-12-20 12:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you scolded a 4 year old for immitating older people ? i guess you can kiss your PARENT OF THE YEAR award goodbye !
2007-12-20 12:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky S 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋