Yes, my boss is a nasty person. I gave him an Xmas gift and I had to ask him about it to get thanks. I feel like he was being really ungrateful. My co-workers are all catty and unpleasant. I get my feelings hurt a lot. I am a good person and I only want to be nice and get along. I am also tough I think. I am not some nice people-pleaser I am just a decent straight-up person. A gentleman if you will even though I am female (gay though). What do you do when you feel like you've been hurt and offended by some tyrant or person who thinks they are better than you???
2007-12-20 04:14:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks. Some brilliant advice. Consider the source? Never again? I agree 100%. I just feel like I have egg on my face now.
2007-12-20 04:45:48 · update #1
I think the older you get, the less you worry about what people say and think about you.
I ignore anything negative. Some people are unkind and cruel. Leave them to it. Stay with people you enjoy the company of.
Don;t worry about anything. As long as you know you are good hearted, that's all you need to think of. Being gay is not easy, I know that, but people are only cruel because they are ignorant.
Good luck.
2007-12-20 04:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your boss didn't say thank you tells me that the present didn't really matter in his life, I think it's more the gesture and not the present (that you did a nice thing when you didn't have to). You have to let it go because this is your boss and this is your livelihood. So you don't want to build up resentment towards him. I learned that out of everything "nice" I've ever done 99% I wont get a thank you, whether it's babysitting for my sister, cleaning my mom's house, taking my friend to an appointment. To make myself feel better I just remind myself that I am doing these things because that's who I am not because of something! I don't want anything in return. If you were to get upset in life for everyone who is ungrateful in this world you will be a very angry person.
2007-12-20 12:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say 2 things when it happens to me. "Consider the source" and "Never again". Just because someone else is an ignorant azz, doesn't mean the thing I did isn't nice, and it doesn't mean I am an idiot for doing it.
And never again will I do something nice for that person, just to be nice. They are the ones who miss out, I learn a lesson.
My feelings would still be hurt, but that will pass. And I have learned something about that person. And it's not good!
2007-12-20 12:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one - never give something with the expectation of receiving thanks. While it is the proper thing to do -- many people have no manners.
Secondly - as someone mentioned - the older I get the less I give a rat's butt what people think about me. I am who I am <
Catty coworkers -- what a waste of energy. Do you do your job? Are you good at what you do? Do you have any desire to socialize with these people outside of work? Then who cares what they say. Catty people are unhappy people - it oozes out in their nastiness.
No one can make you feel bad unless you let them - so stop letting them.
2007-12-20 14:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Susie D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a very unhealthy work environment. My advice...get out! You dont need those people in your life. You would probably be more successful elsewhere anyway. You have to love the people you work with. If you cant enjoy a little laugh or conversation with a co-worker, you will never last there.
2007-12-20 12:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by jb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I keep my distance if at all possible and tell myself they have the problem, not me...I'm the better person...
2007-12-20 12:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anglcake 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋