what do you do when you are just waiting for a proposal?

Question

any tips to keep me sane and not going to bed dissapointed avery night?

Answer 1

O man...this is a tough situation. I know everyone is telling you to just forget about it & that's when it'll happen, put it at the back of your mind, try not to think about it, etc. but here's the truth: it's probably too late for that! You sound like it consumes alot of your thoughts during the day & I can only imagine how you feel when you get your hopes up at every holiday, birthday, anniversary...ahh, i would drive myself crazy! I don't know that there's anything you can do now because you think about it so much, its kinda hard to just make yourself STOP. What you can try is just to focus on the state of your relationship NOW. Enjoy this phase of your lives, as boyfriend & girlfriend and take this time as an opportunity to do things that will become harder when you are engaged and married. Spend time with girlfriends, make time to spend with your family, start a new hobby, anything to keep yourself occupied. Don't let this constant worry run your life, it won't make him propose any sooner & it will only cause problems in your relationship.

Answer 2

Try to remind yourself that the proposal is not the culminating end to your relationship. It is just the beginning on that next step. Part of the joy of the proposal moment is all the other things leading up to that point....it makes it sweeter when you finally get there.

You need to know that the more you dwell on something, the higher your expectations will be. Don't ruin it all for yourself or your man by setting those unrealistic expectations and hopes. Let things happen naturally.

Answer 3

Realize that proposal or not, you're still together and that's what matters most. The proposal will be wonderful, but being with one another is the best part. It'll happen when the time is right and when you're not expecting it.

I was waiting for mine to happen to. But eventually I realized that he'd do it his own way when he wanted to. I just stopped thinking about it as much as I could and relaxed. When the time came it was amazing, and that's what mattered.

Answer 4

You shouldn't be going to bed disappointed every night! You should be sooo happy that you have someone you love and that loves you. Marriage is (supposed) to be forever, so you'll have the rest of your life to be Mrs. Boyfriends-last-name.

... then again I totally understand. I had no desire to get married right way, but after three years I was dying to be engaged. Just keep hinting around, men are dense; he'll get it eventually.

The surprise is right around the corner :)

Answer 5

I know how hard it is to wait for that question, trust me! I knew my hubby had bought by ring about two months before he actually popped the question. I drove myself a little crazy thinking "I know he's got it, so what is he waiting for?" but eventually I had to let go because I was getting myself all cranked up. When he did do it, it was a big surprise and I was ecstatic. Just relax and tell yourself that his level of commitment is such of an engaged man already.

Answer 6

He's waiting for just the right moment. Offering a proposal is a very big thing for a guy, so don't spoil it for him by pressuring him, asking him first, or being pissy about it. This isn't just about you--an engagement is for two. Obviously, you've talked about it, you know he loves you and you know he wants to marry you. Be a little patient here; it will serve you well later in life to develop patience and to see things from the other person's perspective. Instead of going to bed mad that he didn't ask you yet, go to bed happy knowing he loves you.

Answer 7

The best thing I can say is put it in the back of your mind and when you do and you least expect it it will be a big surprise for you. You don't want to ruin it for yourself and then talk about how it was such a bad proposal. Try to think of other things if you can. Just my opinion. Good Luck.

Answer 8

I went through that. My fiance' and I had talked of marriage, and I knew he was thinkin gof proposing, but the "when?" drove me crazy. Anytime you feel yourself hoping, just remind yourself that you want to be surprised, that he'll do it in his own time, and focus on something else. Don't get your hopes up, only for them to fall. That causes hurt feelings or resentment, and there's no room for either in a relationship. My fiance' had told me it would be when I least expected it, and it was. But let me tell you, you know matter how they go about it, you won't expect it =]

Answer 9

Who says the man has to propose?

How about YOU proposing to HIM?

Indeed, one of the most important things in a good marriage is open honest communication. Start a discussion about what's next in your relationship? AND really listen to him. If he says he's not ready for marriage - let that be a big clue honey.

Or if he doesn't want to talk about "it" at all - let that be a big clue - maybe this guy isn't the one for you.

But you can't read his mind - and he can't read yours. Trust me, your mouth is a great portal to allowing him to see what's going on in your head. So start discussing this.

BUT listen to him carefully! Remember - your ears are a great way for you to learn what's going on in his.

Answer 10

well you should be happy in your relationship NOW because a proposal will not change anything.

I'm waiting for the proposal too and i know we are planning on being to gether for the rest of our lifes so no biggie waiting till he can carry out his plans.