K, story so far. He broke up wit his ex, as she went travelling, they were only together a few months. Since i have got with him, she proceeds to post comments & pics of them together on his social network pages. She know he has a girlfriend. I dont want to make too much of an issue about it, especially to him, cos he'll think im over reacting. So slyly, what can i do, where i come out looking the better, and not loosing him?? HELP
2007-12-20 02:13:04 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can come out looking better by ignoring her. If you react to her, you will show her that you are threatened by her. She will feel like she is still a part of your lives.
She can only be a part of you and your guy's life if one of you pays attention to her.
2007-12-20 02:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by slinkywizzard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have the ability to ban her from his web pages - that way she would not be able to post anymore. I don't think it would be uncalled for for you to ask him to delete her as an online contact. You can explain to him that what she is doing is making you uncomfortable and you can always ask him to speak to her and ask her not to do it. He doesn't have to say it's your idea - he should get to deal with the fall out of his breakup, not you.
I don't know how long you guys have been together but if it's not that long yet, give it a couple more weeks and maybe she will get over it, find someone new and stop posting about her ex... Besides, you said they were only together a few months - how many pictures, stories could she have to post?? I am sure she will run out of material soon and then problem solved!
Good luck!
2007-12-20 02:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try posting a happy pic of you and him right next to one of hers. Title it... That was then, this is now. :)
Without being snotty to him, tell him how it makes you feel. You are his current GF and therefore, your happiness should be a top priority for him. It seems to me that she's trying to edge you out of his life in a not so subtle way. If he can change who has access to his pages, then maybe he should block her.
If he doesn't see your point, then you are probably better off without him, because he may still have feelings for her. From your post, I gather the reason he broke up with her was because she travelled and was unavailable a lot of times. If she's stopped travelling, then he may want to get back with her.
2007-12-20 02:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. WC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to communicate with him your issues. He should understand, tell him to put himself in your shoes and how awkward that would make him feel. Then he needs to tell her or somehow let her know that it is over between the two of them and she needs to get over it. It will work better coming from him then you. I think talking out your issues with him will show him how grown up and mature you are then to go to her and tell her off! I hope this helps you, Good Luck!! :o)
2007-12-20 02:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Christina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply have to ignore her so she is not aware personally of how much it is bothering you. That would serve the purpose of her doing it... What else can you do. However, you most certainly should bring it to his attention. And ask him this one question " If the situation were turned around how would you feel? and what you would you expect me to do about it?" Very simple! Every relationship needs two things to exist peacefully... Honesty and open communication about your feelings. Or you can simply just shut up and deal with it... And be miserable. If he is unwilling to do anything about it, perhaps you should consider leaving him alone, he does not deserve you. If he is not willing and or able to consider your feelings. Good luck and God bless****
2007-12-20 02:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing for you to do is not to make an issue about it at all. If it starts to bother him let him deal wwith it. It has nothing to do with you. You will come across as the more mature one. Make life easier for him and don't sweat what you can't control. I know its a pain in your butt but relax. He is with you now. The only way to loode him is to make life hard for him.
2007-12-20 02:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore the pics. She's obviously know he has a g/f and being very immature. Don't stoop to her level. I know it will be really hard to ignore her but that's what she wants from you, a reaction!! You won't lose him if he really wants to be with you. There is nothing you can do in his decision. If he DID leave you for her, then he wasn't worth it. Good luck
2007-12-20 02:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Loews 48 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You can talk to him about it and let him know how you feel, but it is HIS ex and HE needs to deal with it. You have no control over that situation and no matter what you try to handle yourself you will look crazy and end up pushing him away. Just tell him how it makes you feel and if he cares about you he will handle it.
2007-12-20 02:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by TG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you should do if you want to look better than his ex, and this is so sneaky no one would notice you're doing it... DO NOTHING!!! Trust your boyfriend. You cannot control the actions of others.
2007-12-20 02:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that ignoring her will be the best thing you can do at this point. If you and your man BOTH ignore her it will drive her nuts and she'll eventually (hopefully) give up.
2007-12-20 02:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋