My boyfriend who I've been with for six months first met me when he was with another girl. We'd met before a year before briefly at a party and had really got on, so recognised each other when we met again and the chemistry was still there. We spent the night together (no sex, just on a sofa each and sat up together talking) and met up regularly after that and spent more and more time together.
I knew he had a girlfriend, so we remained friends, but it became harder and harder to fight and we ended up sleeping together. We both knew it was wrong for her sake, but for us it felt so right. That weekend he broke up with his girlfriend and we are now together.
However, the issue is that my friend are neurotic that he will cheat on me. I am proof that he has done it before, and as we're very honest with each other, he has admitted that he has cheated in most, if not all of his relationships. Am I wrong to not worry he will cheat on me? Am I setting myself up for a fall?
2007-12-20 00:35:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have never doubted him, and when we started dating I said to him if he ever has feeling like he had for me for somebody else when we were still together to tell me before anything happened.
Everybody I know just thinks I'm being a fool by not doubting him.
2007-12-20 00:45:09 · update #1
Now why on Earth would you want to be with someone that you KNOW is a cheater?
*sigh*
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.
2007-12-20 00:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so SO very wrong. He will most likely do it to you as well, its only a matter of time. Sure, you are both open and honest with each other - right now. Sure, you are close and get along really good - right now. And things are so great - right now. In time, when things aren't so open all the time, or something comes up that he can't quite be honest about, and the closeness suddenly isn't all the time anymore, he will sooner or later meet someone else, and they will hit it off - the chemistry will be there and he might even spend some innocent times with this new friend. But they are only friends, so its ok, right. Right - for now. But just as you know, things happen. You've seen it for yourself. He did the same thing with you and to her (his ex). History does repeat itself. He even admitted this to you when he said he has cheated on almost everyone he has been with. He basically told you that it will eventually happen to you too. If you cannot see this, then I feel sorry for you. You will see this, eventually, though..... either now, through the voices of experience and logic, or, you will see for yourself. And when you do, I pray that you have strength, you will need it. Think about what I have written here, please. You really should listen to what you are hearing out there.
2007-12-20 08:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, people--we're all human.
Okay, so he doesn't have a good, strict code of ethics that he follows rigorously. So, he's not a person who you can trust to do the right thing even if it is very hard. However, maybe it won't be so hard for him. If he felt a strong attraction to you, and you for him, and the two of you even managed to not get it on at the first opportunity, then he's not completely without a sense of obligation.
I'd suspect that if he is in the same situation again the same thing will happen. But the same situation is one where he is falling in love with someone and not really in love with you. So maybe while your relationship is strong he will be faithful, and when it starts to weaken you should break up sooner rather than later instead of waiting for something hurtful to happen.
It's also a good sign that he didn't wait around too long to break up with his girlfriend after sleeping with you.
2007-12-20 09:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Joel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am a bit confused and I don't know what u want us to say, because in your own words u ve said that when u slept together that night (cheated on his gf wif u), although it looked wrong, it was right in your judgment. Now what's wrong with doing some thing which is right in your judgment. If u know that it hurts, why did u deliberately and knowingly cheat?
2007-12-20 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by HotPrince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you'd like to think, "It will be different with me." But the truth of the matter is he's openly told you that he gets bored with his women and -instead of being honest and breaking it off- he cheats on them. Sounds like he wants to be able to roam while making sure he's still got a pleasure-ticket waiting for him whenever he's unlucky. In short, he's a low-life coward who isn't worth your time. Move on or prepare yourself for some hurting!
2007-12-20 08:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cat's Cradle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel like it's definitive that he'll cheat again, but if he does, you need to be able to accept that it had NOTHING to do with you. he needs to be able to figure out what it is that makes him stray. does he like the challenge? does he like the sneaking around part? does he get emotionally involved and then turn and run because it gets too intense? i'm not making excuses AT ALL. but there is a reason to why he does and only he can find it. all that you can do is be there to listen. but if he does cheat again, walk away with your chin up and your pride. you played with fire and got burned.
2007-12-20 08:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by onegirlsnightout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you meet him? You answered your own question right there. If he cheated on his ex to be with you...what makes you think he wont do it to you? And you knew he had a girl and you slept with him. You failed from the beginning.
2007-12-20 08:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ima Sexy Biatch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband cheated on his ex girlfriend, (not with me), but but i know his feelings for me are different. if you aren't worried, then take no notice, people react different with certain people, sounds like he tried to remain faithful to his last gf, and didn't see both of you for long. as long as he's being honest with you. maybe you are feelin guilty about how you met, you were part of him cheating with his ex.
2007-12-20 08:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy with such a history: going out with someone ....finding someone else n then dumping the prevous person, that doesent sound good!!! i suggest that dont be another girl in the line who he found n slept with n then moving on to the next girl!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-12-20 08:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by dialovesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u are so i think u should get out of that relationship befor u get hurt
2007-12-20 08:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_robert123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋