My friend has been seeing a guy for about 6 months now, he says she's the first women he really loved..ect.. But he all so says his best friend is a women, and mentions her allot. He called her and told her one night he had a dream about this friend and that in the dream she was in the emergancy room and died. So he called her to make she she was okay. Recently this women seperated from her husband and he has been acting a little differant getting mad easily ect.. Should she be worried?
2007-12-19 23:28:07 · 2 answers · asked by Stacia25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing wrong with having a best friend who is the opposite sex, BUT there are some things that she needs to pay attention to before she decides whether or not she has a problem.
1. Does she also socialize with this friend? If he keeps her away from the friend or the friend avoids her--RED FLAG--if the friend avoids her, then this is a sign that the friend has feelings for her BF. If HE keeps the two women apart, this is a sign that HE has more than platonic feelings for the best friend.
2. What is he getting mad about? Is your friend haranging him about seeing the best friend and either accusing or implying that there is something going on without evidence that something is going on? Then I can understand why he gets mad--I'd get mad too if I had a partner constantly accusing me of fooling around when I wasn't. Or does he get mad at stupid things that seem to not matter? That could be a sign that there is just some stress going on in his life--it may have nothing to do with his best friend or he may be mad at his girl friend or it may have nothing to do with her either.
You haven't really posted enough info to tell if there is something funky going on. The dream doesn't mean anything except that he cares about her and was worried about her. People can't help what they dream.
He may feel for her as he would a sister; he may have romantic feelings for her that she doesn't return so he's happy to keep her around as a friend; he may have romantic feelings for her and never acted on them because they haven't been available at the same time.
There just really isn't enough info in your post to make that kind of a judgement. Your friend will have to pay attention to how her BF and his friend behave with each other and how they treat her before she can decide if their relationship is just a friendly one or if there is something more.
2007-12-19 23:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be worried if i werte her i wouldnt like my mans best friend being another women
2007-12-19 23:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋