How can a divorced, single mother of a son ensure that she raises an emotionally healthy and well-rounded man?

Answer 1

One thing you should do is read up on boys. They think differently than girls, and you don't want to stifle their self expression. Another thing, make sure you are allowing him to be independent. Boys learn to be "men" by being allowed to fail once in a while. Get him involved in Boy Scouts, so he can have the positive male influences in his life.

One thing I see in our society that I find tragic is that boys grow up without a father, and don't understand how important the role is...so they get a girl in a family way and take off...because it is the MOM's rob to raise the children. When your son is old enough to understand, make sure he realizes that your situation is less than ideal, and what he should be doing when he has a family of his own. And never let him hear you say negative things about men in general...even if you are just blowing off steam with your girlfriends, he may take those things to heart.

Answer 2

Spend time with him. Make sure you're using an adult approach and are unselfish and fair. Give him no unrealistic expectations and make sure he has responsibilities at home. He should learn how to take care of himself, meaning how to cook, do laundry and fix things. The only thing you can do is the best you can. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't. Life doesn't have to be so complicated if you take care of the basics.

Answer 3

that's an excellent question......and goes to the heart of my disdain for younger guys these days.....i see it everyday in the guys who work for me....the biggest reason i feel that there are so many worthless young men coming up these days is the lack of a strong male presence in the home....even when there is a man there, alot of times they don't provide an example of what it is to be a man......i fear that i come from the last generation of men whose fathers got it and taught us how to handle our business as a man, with integrity, honesty and character.....not to mention that they don't know how to treat women anymore either....it's no wonder that so many young girls are so disgusted with the type of guys they are meeting these days....above all you also need to teach him how to take care of himself....inlcuding cooking, laundry and housekeeping.........i can't give you a good piece of advice here.....it's a sad commentary on the way the world is today that you even have to ask this question, or that some of us older guys have to answer it......above all teach him to treat women with dignity and respect, and get to know them as a friend first before anything else, then anything that happens after that, no matter how freaky, kinky or out there is just the bonus because he took the time to get to know her first......teach him to take pride in his work, no matter what he does and to do everything as if he has to sign his name to it...because one day he will probably have to......and always stress the fact that no matter what he does, to always treat people with courtesy, honesty and respect.....and don't be afraid to put a hand to his as*s if he screws up......it's going to be hard for you as a woman to relate to alot of the problems that he as a young man will have or encounter as he grows up, but at least you are thinking about it and asking the right questions......if at all possible, try to find a male that you know to be a 'good' one.....as scarce as they may be anymore, to be a positive influence in his life as much as possible, or at least someone that he can talk to about things that may come up that he may feel uncomfortable talking to you about, because there will be many.....good luck to you.....

Answer 4

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Answer 5

hard but fair and plenty of love