im 15 and i have a boyfriend. we like eachother alot, and he has brought up the next subject...but i dont know if im ready, and i dont know if im not ready....
2007-12-19 18:36:20 · 13 answers · asked by california_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm guessing you mean the "next step", in which I would say don't go for it. You'll never regret waiting- don't do anything until you're SURE you are ready and you are comfortable with it. Take your time, there's no hurry and no one should pressure you into anything.
2007-12-19 18:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Erka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple: If you don't know if you are ready, then you are not ready.
15 is very young. Take things slow, and be 100% sure before you do anything. If he can't respect that, and let you take things at your own pace, then he's not the boy for you. You want to have a guy respect your wishes and to be patient with you.
You can never go back, so don't let anybody make the decision for you. Always make the decisions yourself.
2007-12-20 02:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Katie A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny, i lost my virginity right around your age. im 23 now, and if i could EVER take anything back, that would be it. the pressure is crazy for young girls, and boys/men will say anything to get in your pants. you only have one chance to do it the right way. i cannot emphasize to you how much this means. it seems like no big deal these days, but you are young. you won't be for long. dont do things you will regret, because there is nothing in this world worse than wishing you could undo what you did.if you dont know, then you arent ready. you dont even love him. you will not be with this boy forever, and you will have many more boyfriends, you never know who you will meet. you don't want to waste the best thing you have on someone just because of pressure. in your school, it may be the "in" thing to have sex, but when you get to my age, there is NOTHING more sexy and mysterious than a virgin lady. and a lady you will be, if you don't ruin it for yourself now. hang in there, kid. just resist now and it will make you stronger to resist later. make it a challenge for yourself, dare yourself to wait until you are 18, or 21, or even married. be proud of your purity, you will be different and men love it too! PLEASE DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
2007-12-20 02:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this boy really loves u, then u shouldn't feel like their is any pressure. Just wait untill ur ready! Or mabye this might nt b the right person 4 u. Also, ur 15 so if u do it- then he could be put in prison and u could get pregant, so if u still insist do it with protection!!
2007-12-20 02:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by tessa2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're ready. You will either decide that he is the right one or you will go on and have many more loves in your life, but either way you will have MANY more opportunities for the 'next chapter.' Do it when you want to, not because some boy tells you he's ready.
2007-12-20 02:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by מימי 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel emotionally prepared to deal with the disappointment if he dumps you later for another girl then go for it. Really think it through, though. So many young women think they are ready, but when the guy loses interest and wants to move on, they feel devastated. This can be so hard on the young mind.
2007-12-20 02:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by clayinspiration 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if this guy really likes you and respects you, he should respect the way you feel. you dont have to do anything you don't feel comfortable in doing. if he does not accept that then he is not the guy for you and you''ll be able to find someone that will respect you and wait for you. you are young and you don't really have to worry about these things. my advice is being honest with him.
2007-12-20 02:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Belle Erreur♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are indecisive, I suggest you take it as a not ready. When you are ready, it is better to be you are sure that you are ready.
2007-12-20 02:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're ready you'll know it 100%. you'll regret 'just getting it over with' you're very young and there will be PLENTY of time for that later
my advice....wait.... if it bothers him a lot- he obviously doesn't care about your feelings be honest
2007-12-20 02:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 15, you are not ready. furthurmore if you were over 18 u would be doubting yourself. therefore not ready
2007-12-20 02:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋