She's my only girlfriend and we've been together for 5 years but last christmas she left me but we still have communication. then a month later she told me she slept with a guy (she lost her virginity to a different guy she hardly knew!) and the guy never talked to her again. then i took her back but i've been pretty mad about it and i still hate her but i also know that i love her. i can't stop thinking about it even though she says she'l be loyal and all that. i still can't get over what she did eve though we're back together for 7 months now. should i give her a second chance? should i trust her? she did it only once. we've been in long distance relationship for 3 years. she's going to take me away after i graduate from college ( i have 2 more months of college to go) and i really want to get out of here. we've been together since we were 16.
2007-12-19 18:16:33 · 11 answers · asked by King Kong Jr. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not know why you have a girlfriend so young. There is plenty of time to be in a serious relationship etc when you get older. You are young now is the time to see what else is out there so you do not get stuck in a relationship you end up not liking in the end.
There are tons of other women out there you should date more and see if you get back together. I think you would feel much better if YOU went off with a random woman HOTTER than her and then told HER about it.
2007-12-20 01:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by tom bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust her anymore. That's pretty much a death sentence to any relationship, especially a long distance relationship since those rely mostly on trust.
I wouldn't be so overly harsh about the virginity issue as you weren't going out at the time & she was a free agent. She broke up with you. You need to have a serious heart to heart with her before you make the move out to live with her. You've known her electronically more than you have physically, so it's hard to say whether or not you'd even be compatible in real life, especially if you are having trust issues. Maybe you feel that she only took you back because her other relationship didn't work out?
To be completely honest though, I really don't think that your relationship will work out since you are saying that you are angry at her & "hate" her for something she did while the two of you broke up. It's been 7 months & you haven't worked through it yet. Maybe actually being physically close together will heal the trust issues, but don't bet the farm on it. Sometimes being closer can actually make those issues fester more. Just don't commit to anything like marraige until you are 100% over this issues & sure of your compatibility.
2007-12-20 02:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see buddy. you know what? you said 5 year. that means she should older than 21 year. she is enough mature for understand your feelings. And we are man. we never tired. because our love is always true. I read your feeling. i know she is your good friend and she can be your only. But you have to trust your self. best luck to you.
2007-12-20 02:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by ASP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hunch you'll end up together either way so I wouldn't get too bent out of shape. Stick it out through thick and thin. You can do it!!! Good luck.
2007-12-20 02:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by BBZTEC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself. Does it really matter? She only betrayed you once. (yes, it was a very big mistake too) But if you love her and can forgive her, then why leave her? This is only one bump in the road with many joys and happiness.
I believe that it is entirely up to you. Are you willing to forgive her? Is she worth that one predicament? If yes, then I believe you should stay with her.
2007-12-20 02:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should stay. she was probably crying her self to sleep everyone of those days without you. and did those things to pretend to be over you. whats most important is that she came back, she still loves you and thats all that matters
2007-12-20 02:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah that hurts. its admirable what you have not done for 5 years. and you are doing right for your love. if she has done something wrong, its not the reason for you to. at the end everyone is responsible for himself/ herself.
2007-12-20 02:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by hwlwlf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart dear, if you really love her you will forget about her mistakes after she has really confessed to you do you think you could get any honest lady as she is
2007-12-20 05:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Hazel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she won't put out for you after 5 years, but will for some random guy, then dump her @$$. there's easier girls out there, stop wasting your time.
2007-12-20 02:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh man....well ...........i wouldn't coz u 'll never b over it. n breakin it off will hurt her. point is it's a lose lose situation no matter what happens.....sorry, just how i see it
2007-12-20 02:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋