well in the house i live in theres my husband my son my brother in law and my mother in law and stap fater in law. We all agreed there whould be no smoking in the house!!! i just came back from watching my uncles house for almost 3 weeks and it seems that my stap fater in law has picked up the habit of smoking in the house,it is in his room but we have central heating so you can smell it in all the rooms.... i mean i try so hard not to get my son around smoke i mean i have enough breathing problems as it isand i havent been around that meany smokers in my life and never had it in the housei lived in and my husband has chronic brochitis... i dont want my son who is 8 months old to grow up around smoke and to think that its ok u kno? its there habit they should have to deal with! Right? i know its cold outside but.... i dont know how to go about asking them to quit i mean while we where gone t was fine but now its just pissing me off to know that we all made a vow to not smoke in the..
2007-12-19 17:42:32 · 13 answers · asked by Angel Marie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
house and i dont know how to go about asking them to quit i am so frustrated right now i dont know what i can do i know that that its around feezing outside but they promised me and now they slack i mean there not the only ppl who live here i know that where not the only ppl who live heree either but the only reason i agreed to live here was on that promise and they broke it i mean i can understand staying in the room when me and the baby arnt here but when where back at least ask!!! u know!!! please help will provide more info as needed!!!
Thanx Disgruntiled mother
2007-12-19 17:45:38 · update #1
You need to sit them down and remind them of your agreement. Tell them how important it is, especially for your son. I'm guessing you don't like confrontation - I don't either - but this is really important. Ask your step-father-in-law to step outside when smoking. This is a new habit of his, and you were there first.
Also, talk to you husband and tell him he needs to support you in this and have him there to confront the family. After all, it's his family - and it's his son. He needs to take every measure to keep his son safe. Even if it offends others. You and your son are your husband's first priority.
2007-12-19 17:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't go on it alone.
Get the others who agree in on it as well.
Use the argument that smoking is allowed for those who chose to, but clear air is the right for those who don't.
A little slacking might have been expected. You shouldn't have left the house.
Furthermore, you are stepping into a well-known trap with your eyes wide open: You are making excuses for them. Ooh, it's so cold outside!
Don't go down that road. No smoking in the house. That rule is clear enough.
Whose house is it, anyway? Can you play that card?
Ps. I have a neighbour who lives alone and smokes outside because he doesn't want the stench inside... Regardless of the weather, and nobody tells him to!
2007-12-19 22:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do WHATEVER IT TAKES to keep smoke out of the house.
I am 50 and I have chronic bronchitis and asthma -- I know my breathing problems will end up killing me -- seriously. I NEVER smoked -- but I lived in a house where both parents smoked all the time.
First try to ask nicely. Perhaps buy them some smoke-eating ashtrays, if those things work. Block the central heat from the bad rooms and buy space heaters. But stick to your guns and DO NOT let them smoke where you and your son can smell it.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 17:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by luvrats 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, you have to get the smoker to agree not to smoke again and find his own way of dealing with it, hoping that his desire not to hurt your baby's small lungs or your husband's sensitive lungs is strong enough to make him deal with the cravings or brave the cold or the inconvenience of going elsewhere to smoke. You will facilitate things if you can brainstorm together where the smoker might be able to smoke, offer to pay for nicotine substitutes (gums, patches), drive him to NicAnon meetings, set up an appointment with a hypnotherapist for smoking cessatrion, or do something else that will present him with an alternative, not just a problem.
2007-12-19 17:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mark S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My father and I aree smokers, my step mother is not. With that said, my dad likes to come home and relax after a long day and enjoy a cigarette and rightfully so. He started smoking inside the house and my step mom raised heck trying to make him quit. Finally she decided to do this. Everytime he started smoking she would fill a water pistol up and squirt his cigarette.
He started getting furious but she explained to him that this was HER house as well as HIS and she didnt give a good god **** if it was cold outside or it was raining out side. Heres a jacket and and umbrella go outside.
this started working at first untill he would light his cigarette and walk inside to finish. When he started doing this she would lock him out of the house untill he finished.
2007-12-19 18:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on the situation, here's what you do.
1. If it's your house, you tell them stop or kick them out.
2. If it's their house, you can always leave. If you don't like something, change it. Don't stick around and complain about it. You don't have to stay if you're unhappy there.
2007-12-19 18:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to move out of the house.
2007-12-20 09:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Steve R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who's house is it?? if it's theirs then there isn't a whole lot you can do except move out. if its your house then put your foot down and say no smoking in the house....its not negotiable. you can try asking him to go to the garage to smoke, but if its his house he can do as he pleases in it....unfair to you and your family but it's a fact of life.
2007-12-20 01:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by 4Xthe fun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your house...your child....you need to find the backbone and not worry about feelings....sit them all down and tell them straight out...if your going to continue living together...there is no smoking at all what so ever no matter the weather in the house, period. this your child, and not your habit, and you want to keep your child safe and healthy, and tell them that they as grandparents should want that too.
2007-12-20 00:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is where ur house ur rules applies....if he doesn't like it then he can leave....its not right that he is not sticking to his agreement.... I smoke outside only becuz of my family's health.. I would sit down and talk with him and be honest with him..
best wishes
Morgaine
2007-12-19 18:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋