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Not involving... the 'intimate' aspects of a relationship, is it okay to lead one on, have fun being a girl, being seductive, and then ending it quickly when you see they've been drawn too far in? What do you do with the guilt afterwards? Again, nothing sexual is involved.

2007-12-19 16:57:19 · 8 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

But there's nothing sexual involved. And it's not like it's being dragged on for days and days, just a couple of hours.

2007-12-19 17:01:46 · update #1

Hm. I agree with lirpa about how men do it too. And I don't 'set out' to find one guy and flirt. If they come up to me, I respond, but no kissing, no touching, no dirty talk at all. Just a few extra smiles and jokes and laughs. Is there really anything wrong with that? What can be done to prevent heartbreak in that case?

2007-12-19 17:20:01 · update #2

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Errr... yes. I've seen guys leave their GF's over girls who do this. Have fun with guys, but don't lead them on. In other words, don't "try" to seduce them, but feel free to be the seductive vixen you are. Give them no reason to think you're into them specifically. That's where it becomes painful.

I think you might need to be happy with yourself. Go count your good qualities, and have a fun night being sexy, but not teasing any one or two guys specifically.

2007-12-19 17:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by GSConsulting 2 · 0 0

You feel guilty afterwards. That's not good! Plus, you could be drawing yourself into some pretty bad situation. Some guys don't like being led on and teased, if they think you mean it, you could have some big trouble, like being beat up, stalked, raped, etc. You could get hurt, and you are leaving a trail of hurt behind you. Some people don't get over that so easily. You might end up damaging someone for a very long time, even the rest of their life emotionally.

Be honest, be good. Even if there's no sex involved, you are behaving like a tramp if I can be so bold to say this. You are building a reputation for yourself. To you, it's innocent, but anyone who observes your behavior and hears some of the guys talk (sometimes they won't tell the truth because they are embarrassed or need to 'look good' to the other guys) will not believe your side of the story. Be careful, please. You seem like a very nice person with a conscience and a heart. Whatever you do, be honest and treat yourself and others with more respect.

2007-12-20 01:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 0 0

No, it's not okay to be a "heartbreaker" but it is okay to have fun flirting and exercising your feminine charms. As long as you are not promising anything or getting physical (touching, groping, kissing, etc) it's okay. You should not feel guilty if it only occurs over a brief period of time. . .but be careful because some guys cannot take "flirting" or "teasing" and can react in a nasty way if they feel that you were leading them on for kicks at their expense.
Also, ask yourself: "Is this how I would want to be treated?" If the answer is no, maybe it's time to stop the games.

2007-12-20 01:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mackenzie Walsh 2 · 0 0

No. Not even Angel's are supposed to treat people that way. The guilt is supposed to serve the purpose of letting you know that what you did was wrong. Be careful, Karma will get ya. What goes around, comes around. You might want to pay attention to that.

2007-12-20 01:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Horserider75 4 · 1 0

Ive done it... why not. I mean, guys do it all the time, they just let it go a lot further than we usually do when playing...

Just remember, when u meet the one u really like, he might know of how u were in the past and then wont want to be with u.

2007-12-20 01:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by lirpa 4 · 0 0

No it is not okay to play with people's emotions. How would you like it if some guy did that to you and you developed feelings for him and he said "just kidding"???

2007-12-20 00:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1 0

nooo. why would you do such a thing to someone's heart.
they have real feelings. love's not a game.
if someone on her answers saying it's okay, they're selfish! and you would be too for listening to them.

2007-12-20 00:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by idkk 3 · 0 0

We used to call that girl a c*ock tease.

2007-12-20 01:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0 0

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