Relationship question for all you God-haters out there?

Question

So, for all of you people who think that God is non-existent or if he is existent he's cruel and meaningless, what good and unselfish reasons have you to date or get married? Is marriage not a gift from God that was meant for two sinners to come alongside one another and together work towards giving glory to our Creator? Or is God worthless and we just "love" (whatever that means to people nowadays) for the sake of "love". Mutual attraction is a key aspect in marriage, but what happened to its original purpose.

(Please no insulting comments. They are only hurtful and do not make your opinion look that much better.)

Answer 1

Well, I believe in God, but the reason atheists date and marry is for sex and pleasure, and companionship.

Answer 2

I don't really want to argue about God or no God you can believe anything you'd like.

I will say this about marriage though. From what I've seen, marriage is about two people that really like each other getting together to start a family. The whole marriage for life thing is hard though because people change and don't treat each other with respect when they know someone too well.

I don't know anything about marrying for God, but I do think marriage is for raising kids. If you are not going to raise kids then there is no reason to get married. Well, unless you are female. Then there are plenty of advantages because you could take your man to the cleaners if you get a divorce.

If you are a guy though, only get married if you want to have children because that woman you love is not going to get any hotter. She is not going to put out more than she did when you were dating, and she will nag you for every thing you do that doesn't live up to her standards. Who the hell wants to put up with that?

I'll tell you who. Someone who wants his children to grow up with both a mother and a father. Everyone and I mean everyone is going to be a pain in the @ss sooner or later. If you have no intention of having kids, then you should always just date people and then just leave when you get sick of them.

If you do want kids though, just know marriage ain't no picnic. In fact, from what I've seen it's a miracle that people even still do it.

Answer 3

So lets have a little history lesson. Marriage as some believe is for love and to be blessed with God's love. But this is not always been true. Marriage was a bargaining chip, it was a way to merge two families together. Farmers often used marriage between their children to merge their farms together or pieces of land. Kings did it to ally kingdoms, and for many other reasons, marriage has been a trader's tool not a lover's gift from God.

When did it become a gift from god? When Churches found a way to get their hand in the money. Marriage has only recently come into being about love. We longer marry for the original purpose and wedlock has been a practice celebrated in many cultures who don't even worship Jesus Christ or the Lord as you know it.

Myself, I don't need to be married to tell me I love someone. If marriage really was so special, why do we have Divorce? Death do us part means nothing in the vows...and if it did, Divorce would be punishable by capital punishment.

Marriage is often times not about love, it is to impress, to raise social standing and for tax deductions.

If it is such a gift from God, then I'm going to have to be a scrooge and say no thanks... I'm quite happy being in love.

Answer 4

I'm gonna have to answer your question with a question.
Why do christians feel the need to prove they are right and get angry at other religions.
why does religion have to be a battle.
why can't people believe what they want
why can't you accept those people.
why do you have to be so one-sided in your views
for the love of ...a high figure...open up and realize that there are other beleifs
why do you respond to everything with "because it's in the bible" why don't you grow up and say; i can see your views but what i believe is whats in the bible.
why do you think that everything is a gift from god. give some other people some credit.
why do you post these questions on yahoo when you know your only gonna choose the best answer by deciding which supports your idea the most.

And lastly
why does, myself, a 13 year old, have a more rational solution for religion than anyone else.

Answer 5

> Is marriage not a gift from God that was meant for two sinners to come alongside one another and together work towards giving glory to our Creator?

I have to admit that I have never heard this before, and it is one of the silliest questions I have ever read. Surely you are smart enough to realize that no one who is a 'god-hater' will buy this. I doubt that even you could buy this.

Answer 6

There is absolutely no benefit to marriage. What can I do in marriage (apart from some really good tax deductions) that I cannot do outside of marriage?

Since I don't believe in god, I cannot hate god. Please get that through your head. Can I hate the easter bunny? Or Santa Claus?

Dating is something that one does to find a mate. Finding a mate is enjoyable. And having a mate is even better. Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, where two people can love, live with and learn from one another. Marriage, again, is unnecessary.

Answer 7

I'm only 14 and i'm an atheist already because i don't possibly belive how god is real?
The term god haters is a bit harsh don't you think? just because we don't beleive in something you do doesn't mean you have to put it like that it's not as if we go around trying to change people into atheists is it?
I have nothing against any religion and i appreciate the people who are loyal to there religion but putting the question like that is quite insulting. I don't see how dating/marrying someone is anything to do with god. It's about the way you feel towards them and if you want to spend the rest of your life with them!

Answer 8

there are a few reasons why i don't respect what you've just said.

1. i think you are missing the point. "god haters" do not believe in a god and, with that, do not believe that relationships were ever designed to give glory to our creator.

2. "love" for the sake of "love" makes me think you are heartless. what is more important than love, whatever form it may take? the love you feel for your god is no more important than the love someone else may feel for their wife or child.

3. the phrase" "love" (whatever that means to people nowadays)" is among the most arrogant i've read on here. who are you to think you have any superior knowledge of anyone else's emotions?

but in answer to your question, i feel that falling in love is best thing in the world. i think it serves a very great purpose, in creating a unit of people that work well together. with this they can go on to, hopefully, have and raise children in a loving, secure environment. the most important thing anyone can do is be a good parent. and, fingers crossed, these children will go on to fall in love, form partnerships and have their own children. this will go on forever and the world will remain populated, as nature intends.

Answer 9

Marriage is NOT a religious institution. If it was, then you'd not have to get a license and, if it didn't work out, have to go through the legal system to end it.

Marriage is there to protect women and kids from the traditional roll men had before women started to take more control of our society. Unfortunately, there are those religions that still repress women so that men remain in control.

Who gives a damn what YOUR god does. It is YOU and YOUR belief that YOU are imposing on others. You want no insulting comments? Then STOP WITH YOUR PROSELYTIZING and evangelism about YOUR GOD. Stop asking questions that are designed to say that YOUR GOD is better than mine or lack thereof!

Damn, you are such a hypocrite!

Answer 10

What is marriage?

This special bond you speak of? People divorce, people will hate the other later. Even if happy endings occur to some, what does matrimony truly do?

You have the right to divorce. And if marriage is not an 'everlasting relationship' anymore, it has no meaning.

Many people need other people to live. Without society, most would go mad.

THAT is what relationships are for.

However, marriage is just a fantastic illusion that people suppose gives them 'blissful happiness'.

Obviously, you Believe.

Think about this. If He is so almighty, if he gave us all 'life' and left us to his other creations...

How are some to blame for not believing? Because experience has taught us so much.

Answer 11

First of all, you can't call someone a God-hater if they don't believe God exists....there's nothing to hate there.

I'm a panentheist, which is more similar to atheism than Christian beliefs. I'm getting married next year to a man I've been with for 3 happy years. What I can say is that you have this narrow view of what relationships are. To many, love is something to be worshiped in and on itself because it is this personal feeling of hope and caring that many don't find in God.

Don't conclude that the original purpose of love was to give glory to this Creator. You don't have any more conclusive evidence as the Muslims and Hindus and Buddhists and any other number of religions do as to the purpose of relationships. And then those who don't even believe in a higher being find love to have their own personal being.

Respect other beliefs.