Lately, since I had my first true love, I feel that I cannot love at all. Yeah, I feel maybe a small attraction to some people, but I can't develop even a small crush. I know nobody is attracted to me (I have a curvy body, Curly hair and Acne, though I see people who have acne but everyone loves them). In my class we are doing social dance, and I have no choice but to sit out because nobody will dance with me. Someone wanted to last year, but I turned them down rather brutally because they were my first love and I was still hurting over him. I regret that now, but it happened so fast I didn't know I had done it until I had hurt myself. How can I find someone to love, and how can I make some new guy friends? The people I know are now all female!
And most of all, how can I get rid of this ache and hurt when I see this one guy (first love).
2007-12-19 16:42:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should start from loving urself first. If u dont love urself, how come someone will love you.
All women have her own attractive. Find ur good point , make it better and better.
Everyone in this earth love to live and share with someone who make them happy and feel comfortable.
And if u wanna get rid of ache when seeing ur first love...think he just a guy and every time u look at him, imagine if he were 90 yrs old how he look like.....im sure u will forget that old guy.
2007-12-19 16:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by T.K.รักในหลวง 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ache will eventually vanish with the passing of time. In the meantime, try to develop new friendships also with the opposite sex. Be amiable and approachable. A smile usually is a good opener. When people notice that you are open to new relationships, they will befriend you. Then, you can move on to deeper ones in the future.
When you see your first love, let the ache be, but don't dwell on it. You will forget him soon enough. I am certain you will Mr. Right when the time comes. So cheer up and socialise but don't be worried. Things will happen in their own time.
2007-12-20 00:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap, that guy is a jerk. But hey, don't look down on yourself. I don't have the good look outside, but i've help a lot of girls in their daily life. There's nothing wrong with you, but you'll need some time to heal inside. Take your time, be confident enough and don't resent about your past. Maybe it's because you loved him so much that you think you've lost everything, but dear girl, love will evolve as you grow and trust me, you'll find a guy that's worthy of your trust and your love. God bless and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 00:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by SASA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing heals a heartache like a new love. Take chances, and be confident! You never know what some guys answers are going to be until you ask. You just may be suprised. But don't fret over it. You have plenty of time to find "the one" . Your young, just have fun and live life and make yourself happy.
2007-12-20 00:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Minipinmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love urself u need not love for anybody. This is illusion anybody love anyone . Their is perfect reason behind each and every aspect of life. If U don't bother about anyone then everyone bother about u. Make U r self precious for other.
2007-12-20 00:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't go looking for the one you will love and trust. Just enjoy your life and when the right time comes, you will just know that the one you can truly love and trust is just around you. Maybe the one you can love and trust is already there but you can't just notice.
2007-12-20 01:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready and you feel safe. It takes a long time to feel that you can trust yourself again to fall in love.
And yes, there are a lot of jerks out there, not just men. Women can be real jerks, don't kid yourself.
Jerks can be anybody.
Sometimes, we can be real jerks ourselves by refusing to compromise, demanding to have everything OUR way, jealousy.
It took be 5 marriages to find the right one.
Hang in there, kiddo!!!
2007-12-20 00:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the natural anteros that succeeds a disappointing eros.
Smile, enjoy, develop other facets of self, love in the greater sphere than relatationships, alone & stone cold sunshiny (if that seems to be self-contradictory, just wait until things go nova!!!).
GL - you probably feel so ratty that you don't even notice others feeling attraction toward you, btw. ;-)
2007-12-20 00:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Master Anarchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be blunt. . .time will help, and there's not a darn thing to do in the meantime. Just make it through each day one minute, one hour, one day at a time. There will be others. This is normal what you feel. Time will pass, but noone said it is easy. Hang in there, and keep busy.
2007-12-20 00:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by confucious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that hurts. but you will find your love. to me that happened some 13 years ago, now i still feel the same pain. my friend, just remember that almost everybody learns similiarly, so that when you need to turn them down you should not be brutal to them, ok?
2007-12-20 02:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by hwlwlf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋