me and my girlfriend are engaged but we cant get married untill 4 years from now and to me that seems realy long but im in love with her so i dont mind waiting but i was woundering if that seems realy long to everyone else?
2007-12-19 16:40:44 · 17 answers · asked by holdthemouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes im a high school football coach and no she isnt a student, she is a girl from out of town but we have to wait so long because of her father.. he said that its his only daughter and he is a buisness man..no affence but they are kind of strict, but she is deeply in love with me as i am with her, but she doesnt want to upset her dad because she is a daddy's girl..
2007-12-19 16:49:16 · update #1
i wish i could but daddy is helping to pay for it even though i want to he and she both insist that he does..and of course she is daddys litle angel so we cant run to vegas..its not like they are prudes.. they are very fun people its just that its his little angel
2007-12-19 17:07:28 · update #2
lets get the age thing right.. lol i am 28 she is 25
2007-12-19 17:09:36 · update #3
Yes it's a long time. Anything can change within 4 years.
2007-12-19 16:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Roxanne 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are both grown adults with the ability to make your own decisions. At 25 years old, your fiancee should be able to stand up to her father. If you two both don't assert your authority now (in a tactful manner), Daddy will be running the show for the rest of your lives. He'll tell you what house to get, what car to get, when to have children, what to name them, and what positions to have sex in!
First bring the matter up with your girlfriend because Daddy's little girl or not, she is going to be your wife. If she continues to be so dependent on Daddy, what will she be like when you're married? Completely clingy and dependent on you?
You two need to make this decision together, without her Dad involved. There are two people in a marriage, not a husband, wife, and father in law.
2007-12-21 09:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that seems very long since she is 25 and you are 28, you are all grown up why should you wait another 4 years. Maybe have your fiance explain that she would like to start having children while she is still in her 20's and see if that works with her dad, a lot of times the mention of grandchildren will speed things along.
2007-12-20 17:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by KMONEY831 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's for real 4 years is nothing compared to the lifetime that you wish to spend together. stay engaged, and hope that her father releases her early. =D marriage is a wonderful thing, and something worth waiting for and looking forward to. 4 years is a long time, but not that long. enjoy your relationship with her now, and learn more about her, grow with her, and take notes so when you do marry her you'll already be the PERFECT husband (but sorry, you'll never be better than mine lol)
2007-12-20 01:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by kandie_licious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're both adults, what's stopping you? Seems a little awkward to me. Sounds like y'all need to sit down with daddy and find a way to make a deal. If not, and you still wanna marry, nothing is stopping you. Life is too short to fiddle around with this type of nonsense. Of course in my world, once married, always married. Make sure she's the one.
2007-12-20 00:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lee K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her father is making her wait??? Doesn't sound like she is mature enough if she can't tell her father that her wants/needs are more important than his in this case. As for the big wedding...sure, they are wonderful, but the marriage is the important thing. My first marriage I had the big wedding and it didn't last. My current marriage, we had a justice of the peace and only our children there...it was beautiful and I am so happy.
2007-12-20 12:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why until 4 yrs from now? are u minors? are u both 14 and waiting to be 18 so u can marry?
Edit: So ur a HS coach and she is daddy´s little girl? That means your like 40 and is is like 14?
2007-12-20 00:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
yeah why so long>? I'm divorced so if i ever take the plunge again i want a long engagement but that's like arranged marriage long. um not to be mean but Ur name is football coach it just leaped in my mind are u a HS football coach and shes a hs student and u gotta wait 4 years for her to grad>?
2007-12-20 00:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by cajunbaby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's quite a long engagement. Out of curiosity, why did you get engaged so soon if you could not be married for 4 years? On the upside it gives her plenty of time to plan the wedding, and it gives you both plenty of time to save and budget for your futures!
2007-12-20 00:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, is her beloved father also going to dictate when you two buy your first house together? When you two have your first child? Better yet, he can draw up the schedule for how often you two sleep together after you're married.
It's a good thing this adult woman can think for herself! She will make a wonderful friend, wife, and mother!
2007-12-20 01:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by mw88867 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋