MPD!!!!!!!!!!!Please Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My mom has been diagnosed with MPD, and shes had it ever since i was born and so dose my dad, but there diverorced. And I've never realy thought too much about cause I thought it was "normal" to have your mom to start yell at you then start to hug you, but now (I'm 13) I relize its scary and I dont want to get it, cause my mom and dad have it, and I now start to panic more when she changes. So is there someone out there who can help me deal with it, will I get it?

PS
My mom when shes"mom" (the normal one) is realy nice and when shes the other "two" shes not abuseve or anything, just cranky or depresed

Answer 1

You are going through a tremendous and difficult shift in your life at the tender age of 13. It's a positive thing that you recognize that it's not normal behavior what your poor mom goes through, when she can't handle her moodiness. Your mom (and dad) don't recognize themselves as people who have a variety of aspects, none of which needs to dominate the other parts of their personalities. But whether through some biochemical factor, or abuse that they couldn't handle without splitting off parts of themselves when growing up, your parents can't allow themselves to be one whole person with a variety of moods, none of which needs to dominate the central personality. Based on the way you have presented this information for all of us in cyberspace means that you are whole, that you recognize the different facets, split off as they are from your parents' consciousness. There are many, many people in this world, while although not MPDs, have varying degrees of unknowingness, that is, they don't recognize themselves when they are being bad, or behaving in ways that they believe are unacceptable to others. I think that you are going to be okay, as long as you are always able to be fully and completely yourself at all times, and in any given situation. Never let go of your spontaneity, your dreams, and your goals. Persevere in spite of frustration, fear, or temporary disappointments, because then you will make it in life. Read as much as you can about MPD, because that will give you the tools of understanding with which to deal with your mom. I wish you all the best in life.

Answer 2

Relax your fears and worries.The likelihood that you have developed MPD is very small. You can't "catch it" and it is not "genetic".

MPD is a little understood condition and manner of using your brain to protect your mind from traumatic fear when in danger.
We believe it only happens in small children who are exposed to trauma or sexual abuse. People who have developed a number of separate personalities are ones who have been abused many times, on numerous occasions, and likely by more than one abuser.
It sounds as if your mom may not have been treated for her psychological disorder. Of all the maladies out there, this is the ONE disorder that can be cured.

Some of the alter personalities may seem scary to you. Others may be childish or silly. Picture a small child who is scared to death and no one is nearby who comes to stop the abuse or house fire or car wreck, molestation, Satan worship, etc. Only a few of the people, men or women, with the highet IQ's have such an ability to fight their fear by forming a new and more capable personality that they believe can hold that memory for them -- so their core personality won't feel so scared. The more times the abusive or traumatic event is repeated, the more dominant and developed the alter personality becomes to "take care of" you, the core person.

Your mom's condition is not your fault, and there is nothing you can do to change it for her. However, it is something that she can change with the help of a well qualified Psychologist who practices in the field of Dissociative Disorders. It's a process that takes a number of years.

The panic you are feeling now is something I went through, as a mom when I first realized my daughter had alters. I didn't know what it was. I believed it would cripple her emotionally forever. She wasn't like the other girls.
After years of therapy, and most of her alters joined into the core personality, she is now the smartest and most capable and confident of my adult children.

You must certainly be feeling that you need to " mother " your Mom at times. It is hard on the family to live with a person who is not consistent in their mood and train of thought.

At 13 you yourself would benefit from speaking to a counselor from time to time, to help you to sort out this thing, to calm your fears, and to help you learn to handle your mom, as you are also maturing into your own person. This truly is a sad situation.

How do you get through it? Our Psychologist taught us to learn to laugh at the funny things that happen in the course of a multiple's day. Sometimes I cried and laughed at the same time.

Answer 3

You mean multiple personality disorder? If so, it's now called dissociative identity disorder. DID is extremely rare, and it's neither genetic nor contagious, so you won't develop it just because one or both of your parents have it. It's typically a response to prolonged and severe trauma (most often sexual and physical abuse) during early childhood, and usually first appears in young children. So you're not going to get DID unless you've been severely abused, and if you were going to have it, you'd most likely have developed long before 13 years, so you don't need to worry that you'll get it.

Answer 4

This is a female disorder. You may have it too. Not too serious if you plan ahead for it. The inner personality will want and can forget what she said later.