he acts kinda of different around her..they share the same "interests" and also his mother's just died and he has been feeling down but instead of calling me "his girlfriend" who has helped him through all of this and more he calls HER! please help me understand why she rubs me the wrong way..
2007-12-19 16:15:04 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would get upset too. i cant tell you why you may feel that way but i know id feel that way because im a jealous person and when it comes to my man i want him to know im here for him and dont want him to feel he has to go to anyone else. you cant stop him from doing it just keep reminding yourself that shes not that one he loves. hope this helps.
2007-12-19 16:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by ssteffen0033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course, if he has a friend that is a girl your going to be jealous, its like that a lot with people, even if you wont admit it. What you should do is try to become her friend, put away your jealous side and reach out to her. If there isnt anything wrong, your boyfriend should feel and act just comfortable around the two of you. And also, if his mother's just died, he's going to feel very depressed and won't know what to do, so don't get too worked up if he calls her more. Just try to comfort him in his greaving, and think: what if that was your mother?
2007-12-19 16:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by somesk8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She rubs you the wrong way because she's a female and she's your bf's bestfriend. Whether you want to admit it to yourself or not they have a history, grant it , it may not be the kind of past you are thinking about but they do. He shares things with her and not with you because he feels more comfortable (I know you're his gf) talking to her. Just let him grieve in any way he can, don't be jealous becuase jealousy can ruin the relationship you've put you're time, love and energy in because of something that's bothering you. Like I said, let him grieve and know that it a reason why he's with you and not her, you offer him something he obviously doesn't think she can give him. Hope I Helped :)
2007-12-19 16:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Cescee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way your feelings are being rubbed is right on the mark.
At the very least, he's insensitive; at worst, a cheater.
Either way, he's not treating you in a loving manner, but is displaying blatent selfishness.
2007-12-19 16:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by danny_boy_jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not completely comfortable with you yet. There are things and feelings he doesn't want you to know or see because you're his girlfriend and what you think about him matters more to him than what she thinks. Like crying for instance. Give him some space, and definately talk to him about how you feel. Remember communication is key.
2007-12-19 16:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Uno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain close to bf more than his gf. Act normally. Continue your earlier feelings, if not possible pretend like that. The gf will automatically go away and find her next bf.
2007-12-19 16:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by raman v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to feel like that, I would!
because he is leaning on her for support your feeling....like maybe he should be getting that nurturing from you, him on the otherhand may find it easier to talk to her because she is a platonic friend, remember men are different than us in that respect-where as we need to talk if we had a crappy day, their brought up to be strong and protecting, so he cant really seek that from his gf because psychologically hes supposed to be protecting you, not the other way around, its almost like a let down to him
dont worry about, its okay to feel the way you do, just dont bug him about it since he just suffered a huge loss, let him deal with it the best way he knows how
2007-12-19 16:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by mmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to say. Some people who have similar personalities clash. Do something nice for her. By her a coffee, etc... Make sure that your bf knows how you feel and that you are working on it. Don't feel guilty, though, your feelings are your feelings. Good luck.
2007-12-19 16:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lee K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just be jealous and feeling insecure. It's a sort of normal thing to feel. I would just talk to him and let him know that you really are there for him if he needs you. If you are supportive and remind him of that, he may call you more often.
2007-12-19 16:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't like her because you're scared that he will start having feelings for his friend. He is probably nervous that if he talks to you about it you will get turned off that he is emotional or something, guys are weird
Don't worry- he's going out with YOU. Lots of guys have friends who are girls!
2007-12-19 16:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋