my 2year old wont sleep unless i sleep first.?

Question

my 2year old wont sleep unless i sleep first? some times he sleeps thinking i am to as soon as he sleeps i put him in his bed he wakes up in about 2 hours crying just cause his in his bed not mine and he wont go back to sleep unles his in my hands in my bed, its been like yhis for the last 6months and i have tryed so hard not to lose it but i havent had any sleep for 2years plz help.

Answer 1

You have to teach him to go to sleep, on his own, in his own bed, and NOW or you'll never have sanity. Think of it this way, it will be easier the sooner you do it. It's no fun, but this is what you do: After you have done the nightly routines (bath, story,water, snuggles) you tell him it's bedtime, and tuck him in and walk out. Then, after you have tucked him in, no matter how many times he comes out (running, screaming, whining, crying, whatever) you put him back. You don't make any further eye contact with him or talk to him or tuck him in anymore (you already did). and keep putting him back until he gets that you are serious and he stays put. Keep calm, be patient (it WILL work, trust me) and stick to it. DO NOT ATTEMPT this unless you know you will follow through! Very important. He must know YOU are mom (and the boss) and listens. you may have to go through this a little bit for a few nights following (and have a refresher course every once in awhile) but it WILL work IF you stick to it. Good luck! No sleep sucks!

Answer 2

You need to put him in his own bed to fall asleep so that he does not get a surprise when he wakes later. Do not lay down with him. Explain to him that he is a big boy and big boys sleep in big boy beds. Then let him cry. If he is still crying after 30 mins go in and tell him it time to sleep and then go back out. Do this everynight gradually waiting longer to go in. After a week or 2 he should be falling asleep on his own and without a fuss. But if you have been doing it your current way for 6 months, then a couple weeks should be a breeze.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

I agree that he could in all probability be going to sleep somewhat later. frequently infants who sleep properly in the process the day for naptime sleep greater efficient at night too. i could attempt giving him the bottle in the past putting him in his crib. whilst he wakes contained in the midst of the night, he needs the comparable convenience that have been given him to sleep contained in the 1st place, yet another bottle! the 1st night or 2 may well be tough, even though it is so properly worth it. considering that I positioned my foot down and made my 13 month old positioned herself to sleep in her crib (no bottle, sippy cup, no longer something), she has been sound asleep splendidly. the 1st actual night it took her over an hour to get to sleep. I purely stored getting into there each and every 10 minutes or so and telling her it grow to be night time and that i enjoyed her and that i grow to be top outdoors. After that first night, she's asleep interior 10 minutes each and every night and sleeps each and every of the way contained in the direction of the night (from 8:30 til 6:30) ninety 9% of the time. this is great! i began out all this because of the fact i'm waiting for yet another toddler too and knew i mandatory her sound asleep greater efficient and actually no longer in my mattress!

Answer 4

I'm not sure whether this works for you. What I did was to tell my son that he's a BIG BOY now and he get to choose his own thing in his room (with given choices), have some cartoon's pillow he likes the most and I let him draw anything he like on the wall. Before we put him into his own room, we've told him over and over that soon he will have his room etc, let him be prepare so when we finally move him to new room, he wouldn't be so surprise and can accept better. Then, for the coming over to my room etc, I have set rules for them as after bedtime story & goodnight kisses they can't crawl over to my room anymore, must knock before enter, since they have their own room, even if they sick I would tell them to still sleep in their room but I will come over often.. Always still "NO" for sleep in my room. Now they've get used to it.

Certain kids can't accept sudden changed of environment which make them feel very unsecure and scare, I guess that might be what your kid is going through. If for now he refuses to sleep in his own room, probably you can set like only certain days he can sleep in your room (example, weekend only) and encourage him to be brave, not to scold him much if he is scare of feeling insecure (it will make things worse as he/she will not want to tell you if anything is wrong later as he/she will just get scold by you eventually). What i mean is, positive way to settle things.

Answer 5

Make him sleep in his room with the door open or get him a night light. You better get him to sleep in his own room or he'll be sleeping in your bed till he's 30.

Answer 6

Why not let him sleep with you? Many 2 year olds still need lots of comfort and closeness at night. He'll sleep on his own when he is developmentally ready to do so.

Answer 7

Not unusual for two-year-olds. He/she wants assurance that you are there. Unless he/she is creating a problem in your marriage, let he/she sleep with you. Get some sleep.

Answer 8

Good luck, I have a 4 year old that thinks my bed is his. Nothing works.