How much of your past do you discuss with new partners. Where do you draw the line?

Question

I was in a relationship about 10 yrs ago and the guy nearly killed me. I was beat up pretty bad, thrown thru a door, lost 1 front tooth and have a scar next to my nose from being punched in the face. I had some serious injuries, a brain concussion, stitches in my face and lost some hearing in my r ear for awhile.
My boyfriend asked me about it which means to me someone has discussed it with him. I do not want to discuss it, so I lied and said it never happened.
Its very personal, and I am not sure I should discuss my past with someone unless I know they are forever my partner for life. I think he crossed a boundary and I know he tells his adult kids my personal business, so I dont tell him anything I dont want spread all over the town.
How do I deal with this? I am not sure if I am being paranoid because I think he wants to know my business to have something to talk about with his adult kids.

Answer 1

What a question... I used to share my personal life with the personI was dating.. but then I met and married a man who was very mean. He would ask personal questions like he was interested in me then kick my *** for it later.
I have a real fear of telling my partner now about alot of stuff now.
When I'm asked questions now. I usually respond with something such as.. Oh! I'm not going to drag that to the surface again, then I casually get up and find somewhere else to be busy.
If you have any uneasiness about divulging info about yourself, don't. Don't lie. just don't tell.

Answer 2

I don't like to talk a lot about my past to anyone really, but if it's to another person who I'm considering dating, I practice my own discretion. Simply, if it makes you uncomfortable to talk about it, don't.

You shouldn't feel pressured to say anything, and don't feel paranoid. You're feelings are yours alone, and you don't have to share anything if you don't like.

Stay strong!