My friend (potential boyfriend) and I see eachother 2-3 times a week. It has been this way for roughly 7 months. Everytime it gets better and better because we are both growing more comfortable. Theres always lots of flirting and cudding and long deep talks. Everything about our current friendly relationship is going great. We both really enjoy eachothers company. It just seems like we are more of a couple than friends, which is what I want. We have discussed our situation on numerous occasions, and the only reason he will not commit is because he thinks I am too young for him. I am very mature for my age. I graduated from cosmetology school and currently have a full time job at a salon. I am 18 and he is 26. To me age is not an issue but he cant seem to not be hung up on it. Am I just kidding myself about the age difference being an issue or can this turn into a relationship?
2007-12-19 15:57:34 · 10 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love have nothing to do with age
if you love a person it doesn't matter how old he is or how young he is.
2007-12-19 16:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get to be a certain age, such as 18, then its nothing more than just a number. It seems to me that the two of you have a wonderful relationship, despite currently being at the friendship level, with eachother and taking it to the next level will only make it that much better. Try to convince him that you're mature and ready to be in a relationship. Let him know that you don't care about the age difference and that you can handle being in a relationship with him. I'm sure you've already told him all that before, as you've stated, but maybe he just needs to keep hearing it til it sinks in! Good luck! :)
2007-12-20 00:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklemoon14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't going to commit to you, when are you going to stop flirting and cuddling?
As someone else said, this is an issue because he thinks it is. You would need to consider what you both want out of life, short and medium term. At his age, he'd be looking for someone to settle down with. Are you ready for that? If you are in party mode, or want to travel, you aren't right for each other. If you are ready to settle down and behave like the little wife, don't give up on him just yet. It sounds like time for another little chat. What exactly does he mean by "too young?" Once he's managed to clarify, you can both see whether you are able to fill each other's needs. There's only 4 years between my partner and I, but we still had those sorts of issues in the beginning. At 26, he was wanting to start settling down. At 22, kids were not on my agenda! Funny though, when I hit 26 I said "Now!" and he got scared and made me wait another 6 months before we started trying for a baby. It's amazing what a few years can do. Your fella may or may not be able to wait until you are ready. You may or may not be able to get yourself ready within his timeframe. Guys have body clocks too.
2007-12-20 00:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that age shouldn't matter. It shouldn't be unless your in it for the money and I know you're not. It's about how much you love that person and that you are happy. People may say that yeah age matters because that's how you know you're right... in the same age group you should get along better and have more things in common. I've dated a guy who was 4 years older than me and I loved it because he was always there and we were happy. Never got boring with each other because we always learned something new about each other. So age doesn't matter, what does matter is if you know you're happy with the person you are with and that you love him or her.
2007-12-20 00:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by krzpinai88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an issue if he thinks it is. The two of you have to be in lock-step on this. Of course, you could ask my wife who is 9 1/2 years older than me what she thinks. We've been married 7 times between us, so we know what we want and need from a spouse, and we're crazy stupid happy literally every day.
Good luck, but don't ever settle, you'll resent yourself and the other person if you do.
2007-12-20 00:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by What to do? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U KNOW the problem is Not about the age difference..it's dat he-man of urs who's kiddin himself. But then again, maybe ur a bit too young and naive to 'read between the lines...'?
2007-12-20 00:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by geee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think age really matters as long as both people are happy. I know alot of people that have good relationships with people with that kind of age gap, some even bigger age gaps but their happy thats all that matters.
2007-12-20 00:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Alpha-Male 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it matters as long as it's illigal. Your situation is nothing like a 13 year old dating an 18 year old. My parents are farther apart than that.
2007-12-20 00:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r 18 he is 26, together yall are 22, a perfect match if you continue to grow together. be happy and do your best to create memories that you can look back on happily.
2007-12-20 00:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by jonathan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past a certain point, age does not matter. You're both legal, so it's fine. You're closer in age than my parents are.
2007-12-20 00:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋