what should i do
my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer 6yrs ago
and ever since then she has been going through hell
what should i do ???
i'm only 12
2007-12-19 15:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
This is a big load to carry, at your age! I commend you on your trying to help her, in this way! You are a good son! I know she is so very proud of you!!
Sweety, do you believe in God and prayer? I do! I have seen prayers answered and I have witnessed healing of the heart and the physical! God hears our heart felt prayers and He answers all prayers! I too, will join you in prayer and seek God's will for her. May God guide you through all things and may you know God's love and the power of prayer, to Him!
If ever you need to talk...just e-mail me,
gail
2007-12-19 16:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) Oh honey, I am so sorry. I wish you were here so I could hold you and tell you that everything will be OK, but as you know, it won't just "go away".
Do you have a teacher at school whom you can talk to about this? They should be able to help you find a counselor you can speak with. Someone else here suggested a kid's support group. Do you have an adult who can help you find such a group through a local Cancer center or hospital?
You need to find an adult who can help you find someone to support you through this ordeal. You are not alone.
Your Mom is lucky to have such a caring, loving daughter. Just be there to hold her hand when she is in pain, bring her pills, water, books, whatever she needs. And most of all, try to not forget about taking care of yourself. Get away from the situation when you can - and try to have some normal fun in your life. I know that it is difficult at this time, but it is important that you don't let the cancer consume you too.
I am so sorry that I can't be more helpful. Please find an adult who can.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and Mom.
2007-12-20 00:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by dddanse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to make the cancer go away, but that's not in your power. So instead you need to do what is in your power. The first thing you can do is to just be there for your mom. You have no idea how comforting it is to have someone give you a hug, read you a story, or curl up next to you and sleep. Even if she is too tired to show it, she will appreciate it and it will help her.
Another thing you can do is make sure you take time out for yourself. The cancer is hell on your mom, but it's hell on you too. You can't live with it 24 hours a day without wearing yourself down, and you won't be doing your mom any good if you wear yourself out. Take little breaks, allow yourself to have some fun, and find someone you can talk to about how you feel.
2007-12-19 16:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by whitefangz1 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. I lost my mom when I was around 12. One thing to do is spend time with her, as you can. Ask questions of anything that you may want to know...maybe about her grandparents, and so on. Gail makes a good point about knowing the Lord, and healing. I will pray for your comfort, and God's will be done. E mail me if you like.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-12-20 12:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there another adult who could help out? If your father isn't around, how about your mom's brothers, sisters or her parents. Call someone. You can't do this alone. It is hard on someone who is much older than you, so I think it is too much for you to deal with alone. If there is no one else, tell the counselor at school. They may be able to get someone to come out and see what could be done.
2007-12-23 14:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong, enjoy every moment you have with her. do things with her that you and she can remember for a life time. Help her when ever she needs you, be there for her. Be patient with her,she is going through a lot and there may be times when she is upset,not with you but with what is going on with her. Just Love her and be with her. Never let the words "I wish I had "come into your life. Good Luck to you both
2007-12-19 16:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by thesweetone20032000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your mom. The most important thing you can do is spend time with her. Tell her how much you love her. Help her out with things aroung the house etc. She will appreciate whatever you do for her however small it may seem. Good luck to you and your mom.
2007-12-19 16:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your moms exact situation so i cant really give advice on her unless you provide more details....
YOU however should get in to a support group with kids going through the same thing.. It will help to talk about it with peers.
2007-12-19 16:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I don't have answer for that.
But if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
I'll pray for you to ask God to write it in your heart what you should do.
If you don't know who God is or don't believe in Him and want more info, I can help you if you want. I promise I won't force my beliefs on you.
She's EXTREMELY lucky to have a child that cares so much.
I am a grown up, but I do know there's lots of sweet, caring young people out there, and they need to be recognized for that instead of constantly being stereotyped.
2007-12-19 16:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Яɑɩɳɓɵw 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is do tour school work and try for the best grades you can , do your chores around home , and mayebe do a bit extra so she has less to do, and just be supportive of her generally. You can let her know that you are concerned for her , but try to live as normal a life as you can , I am sure thats what she would want for you .
2007-12-19 16:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋