im living with my BF and im pregnant with his baby
we fight constantly hes even hit me
its like he controls me
im scared to leave because of the things he says
what can i do? Has anyone been in this kinda b/s?
2007-12-19 15:55:21 · 13 answers · asked by CICI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You HAVE to leave. I was in a bad situation and leaving was the best thing that I ever did
2007-12-19 15:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know so so so many people who have been through this, and the main thing i would like to say is GET OUT. Before he hurts you or your baby hun. It wont get better he will get more and more abusive and you don't want to raise a baby in an abusive home. If he threatens you call the police, get a restraining order. Also if you live in the usa, you can call the women center, they are located all over the usa,
you can stay there.
2007-12-19 23:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Deziix33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant and my bf acted the same way. He didnt really hit me, but if we started fighting, we'd start pushing each other around and it got pretty rough. You need to get away from him. Tell someone, anyone!!! You dont want that kind of person around your child. Just think how he'll hurt your baby once he's born. Not to mention he could be damaging your baby before it's even born. I look at my little one now, and think how dumb I was for staying with my bf as long as I did when he treated me like that, and how he could have seriously hurt her.
GET HELP. Stay away from him. And maybe eventually he'll learn & change his ways.
2007-12-20 00:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by i_hrt_hollister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is hitting you, you need to get out for your safety and the safety of the child you are about to have. The control and hitting will escalate until you get badly hurt or worse. Your child will grow up thinking that abuse is ok. There are organizations that will help you. Go to your phone book so you don't leave a trail, and check for women's help places and call them from a non traceable phone. They will help you get your life in order and be able to support yourself and your child and most importantly you will not be hit again.
2007-12-20 00:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him! its dangerous to continue in an abusive relationship especially with a baby on the way.
get out of there! change your phone number and move somewhere if its that bad. make sure he doesnt get any more info (new or old) on youh. good luck
2007-12-19 23:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by non_plastic__mannequin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out and you need to do it NOW.
Find somebody to stay with, friends family, whoever...just get out. Its not going to get any better when the baby comes and you dont need to put yourself or your child into harms way.
Dont tell yourself its going to get better, and dont let him convince you that it will, because most likely, it wont.
Find a way out, and do it sooner rather than later, your baby doesnt need to see that kind of thing happening.
2007-12-19 23:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack a bag or two( make sure you have your personal papers ) and go to the police. They will help you get to a Woman's shelter. Get away from him and NEVER look back. You and your baby deserve to be away from him.
2007-12-20 00:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help from a family member or trusted friend. if neither of these are available, find a womens shelter. Don't stay another night. You owe it to your baby.
2007-12-19 23:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave. do you want your kid to grow up in a place like that? if hits you than you defiantly need to leave! stay with a friend until you find a new place to rent. you shouldn't have to put up with that especially if your pregnant
2007-12-20 00:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a restraining order could work but maybe taking with a specialists adult used to these kinda things- I know that's obvious- But your Bf doesn't control you and you have the power to kinda of you know block him... like a person on Yahoo. Maybe if you don't trust anyone get a Therapist...(There very helpful in these kind of situations!) Also try to get along with him and agree with him.. if he is one of them "No!No!No!" types then if you ever see him say "hey! How are you doing?" when he's nearby. Think positive! Smile! :) Be as pro-active as possible meaning think before you say something that could easily offend him. Try to be his best friend like the way your guy became Bf/Gf's. These tips may not work for you but at least try to get the message that you are extremely sensitive and maybe even show him your emotions if you haven't already. Maybe he is sensitive too under stress or something because usually people are grumpy under a lot of stress or pressure. I hope you can at least get a therapist! They DO help! I hope I helped!
I think hitting a women is against the law...ok ok but hey maybe you could like punish him or something...Just putting the ideas out there!
If you are really angry at this guy and never want to see him again not even in your good memories. You should go the police immediately and stay away from him as good as possible. Pack your bags when he isn't home but be sure to do it like if he away or maybe get a few friends to help you pack faster and defend you if he comes home early or something. Perhaps you could get the police to come over and wait to arrest him for cruelty or at least get the cops to safely escort you to the station. If you don't even want the baby then when it is born you can either put it in his custody or and adoption center. You should get away from this freak if you think it is that time now.
If he knows any DEEP dark secrets...WHO CARES? Your going to live and be happy and well right? You could tell everyone he is a user and a phsyco!
2007-12-20 00:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋