- What would you do if your son told you he was gay?
- What would you do if you came home and found your son making out with another boy (before he came out to you)?
- What would you do if you came home and found your son cuddling with another boy (before he came out to you)?
and last but not least...
- What would you do if you came home and found your son making love to another boy (before he came out to you)?
2007-12-19 15:53:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
lol Just so all of you know, I don't have a gay son. I'm only in high school, and gay myself. I'm just curious on how most parents would react to such situations.
2007-12-19 16:00:19 · update #1
I wouldn't really care, but then again im slightly biased, since im gay to!
2007-12-20 11:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight-Expressman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son announced that he was bisexual at 13. I said okay, but you are a little young to be defining your sexuality as anything permanent yet. Maybe he'll be gay, maybe he'll be straight, maybe he'll be bi. Really for most people (many people hate to admit this) sexuality is fluid, it changes throughout the life span and that is okay. Our culture tends to be frigid and weird about sex.
On the last question, it is all about protection, I would have no problem asking him if he was using a condom.
On any of the three last questions though, I don't ever want much to do with my kids sexuality, that part of their lives is all theirs. I don't care if they are gay or straight, they can tell me that and cuddling, no problem. Serious groping, making out, having sex, don't really every care to come home and find my kids doing these things. If they are 90 I don't want to know if they are doing these things.
Most parents though are going to have a big reaction to hearing their child is gay. Either because they are rigid in their thinking or they are wanting grand children someday or they are worried that you will be persecuted and discriminated against your entire life. If you are thinking about telling your parents make sure you have lots of support people around you first. They don't have to be there when you tell your parents. By support people I mean they should know you are gay, respect you care about you, be willing to support you if things go good or bad with your parents.
2007-12-19 16:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by SweetSerendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting, and although I'd love to be the liberal I claim to be for the sake society, I will answer as truthfully as I can.
If my son had come to me with this truth, then I'd embrace him whole-heartedly, for he is my son -- flesh of my flesh and blood of my blood -- and I would support him without a doubt.
The following questions, however, are more difficult for me to answer. I am a Christian, but I am also twenty-years-old, and I am of the world and of God; I see the situations from two sides.
My Christian side would say that he is sinning -- and I am only human, so to see my son engaged with another male would startle me, but I could never hate him for what he feels is right.
My worldly side says to just go with it, but then my Christian side gets in the way.
To tell the truth, I would probably be really upset if I saw any of those; I would never want my parents to see me with my boyfriend (if you haven't figured it out yet, I am a female), doing the things we do. It'd be awkward in any situation.
2007-12-19 16:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by /\/\|>-@}3(_)Xeh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is maybe you'll be pissed or confused but the main idea on this situation is support communication and being comfortable in your own skin if that's gay is the life a person is happy with it's your life long as u r happy whoever don't understand they need to be more educated on the matter i think gay people are so awesome they are honest and upfront i like that in people
2007-12-19 16:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be a bit shocked because he didn't talk to me first, but I would get over it and speak to him. Everyone deserves to be happy in this life and I wouldn't want my son to do what people think he should do. He needs to follow his own heart in life. I would make sure he is using protection and knows any consequences of his decisions. I would love him no matter what. I don't feel that I have a right to judge him. That job is already taken!
2007-12-19 16:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the rule still stands, no sex before you're 18, and when you decide to have sex after that, you need to move into your own place, because sex is an adult matter and if you want to engage in adult behaviors, you should take responsibility for your life, not expect me to support you like a child.
2007-12-19 16:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... to be quite honest gay and lesbian do not effect my one way or another even if it was my own child as long as they are happy and honest with themselves what bothers me is when i hear someone doesn't know (they are confused) or curious not that i don't understand it but i feel sad for that person because they question who and what they are when that is the case they are not happy and definitely not healthy emotionally until they figure out their own truth if i caught my son or daughter making out with the same sex i would react the same as if they were with the opposite sex i would be angry that he or she in my case i have 2 girls did it period because i have always been honest with any questions my girls have had and i never judge them for their beliefs they are individuals i can tell them my truth but i can not tell them theirs
2007-12-19 16:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what I haven't had this happen yet, but I suspect it will... See my three boys are still young, but two of them come from a long line of "gay" on their fathers side, I dont want it to be that way but I've already prepared myself for if it is that way. I would not be mad or freak out in any way... I am totally confident that if any of them chose to be gay, then I would love them jsut as much if not more, see in this day and age it is no good to hide from this, Gay is here to stay!! Every person deserves to be what they want to be!! Not what society wants of them. I'm all for it just as long as they are happy!!
2007-12-19 16:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Moma 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'd laugh and then tell him to take the action outside. even my son that wasn't gay wouldn't be allowed to make out on the sofa.
2007-12-19 16:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the same talk I'd give my heterosexual children about what his appropriate behavior in my house hold and in their relationships and about the sex thing, remember- just because they can't have kids doesn't mean they can't get STDs!
He's your son, you should love him as he is.
2007-12-19 15:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by ☆andi☆ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋