ok so lately i have been having overwhelming sensations to cheat on my long time boyfriend. i fantasize about it and think about it almost everyday!! i dont think i would ever actually ACT on these feelings....but theyre still there and it bothers me! how can i get them to go away?
2007-12-19 15:53:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait wait guys im really sorry i dont know why i didnt put this in....i dont wanna cheat on him for SEX i just want to be able to talk to/kiss/cuddle with someone else...all that romantic crap lol
2007-12-19 16:05:08 · update #1
Then DON'T - it's as easy as that ;);););)
2007-12-19 15:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kat,
This is quite common and pretty natural. We all get all kinds of feelings or fancy we doing many things. But that is all thoughts. We need to have control over ourselves to make sure they dont cross the limit of thoughts.
If you are not thinking about the same guy in all your such thoughts, then, you dont have to worry, it is just a fantasy. Everyone does it. Millions of people fantasise about doing all kinds of things with celebrities.
If you are thinking about the same person and if that person is someone known to you or your family, then you should be careful, it will be just a matter of time before you do the actual act of cheating ecause your mind has already tuned you into that. In such a case, cut off your thoughts immediately. When such thoughts come into your mind, change your attention, learn to kill those thoughts.
You are a nice girl, and you are sure of what your values are. You will never cheat. And I think you are responsible enough to handle well any problems in your relation.
Take care, All the best..
Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year to You..
2007-12-20 00:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself where the idea is coming from. Has he been taking you for granted ? Is there someone else, ie one person with whom you want to cheat ? Or is it just not being tied to him ? Do you have reason to want to break up ? Are you subconsciously finding him less {attractive, intelligent, loving, socially acceptable, etc any or all of the above} ?
Or are you just horny for someone else, someone new, someone kinkier, someone more plain vanilla ?
Once you know where the feeling is coming from you will be one step closer to resolving it.
Perhaps fantasize a 3 way with him as one participant ? Not saying follow up on it, but as a thought experiment.
2007-12-20 00:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by redbeardthegiant 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I promise you it will happen because mentally, and emotionally it has already happened it's just a matter of time before the right one comes along to help you achieve this physically, that's what happens when you are bored in your relationship. Before you go through with it find out why you are feeling this way and see if there is something you can do to keep it from happening
2007-12-19 23:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Reanie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just think, do you really want your boyfriend to think of you as the girlfriend who broke his heart? Do you really want to feel bad for how ever long, just because you thought about cheating on another guy. Think about if you can live with all of that. Also think about if you truely love your boyfriend as of now. Cheating is a horrible thing. If you do it to him, it just might come back & get you.
2007-12-20 00:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Alissa B. (: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't think it is fair to keep him in the dark of it (and can be dangerious)
You say you want to cheat like to violate him
Or do you just have fantisies of another "in your private parts"?lol
Wanting some "strange" is understandable ,but if your looking to piss him off to get attention by cheating . Shame On Ya
I say find some strange , but make sure it dosen't interfere with what you allready have going.
2007-12-20 00:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by "Not today, Zurg!" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably mean that your relationship is somewhat boring. Spice it up
2007-12-19 23:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by miki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See a counsellor!
2007-12-19 23:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go and buy yourself a plastic toy and put it to good use
2007-12-20 00:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋